“just broke up, and I’m feeling really depressed. “For the last four years, I’ve had someone to talk to “about literally everything in my life, and now that’s gone. “It’s hard to believe that a four year relationship “ended in 20 minutes. “I was saving and planning on proposing to her “in the next few […]
“just broke up, and I’m
feeling really depressed. “For the last four years,
I’ve had someone to talk to “about literally everything in
my life, and now that’s gone. “It’s hard to believe that
a four year relationship “ended in 20 minutes. “I was saving and planning
on proposing to her “in the next few months, and
now that’s not gonna happen. “I feel empty, I feel
a void, I feel blank. “Got any advice on how “to pick the pieces of my life back up?” – Jesus. (laughs) You couldn’t have warned
me this was coming? Well, ya know, I mean,
if this was my buddy, the first thing I would
desperately try to do is I always feel like the
quickest cure for heartbreak off a long-term relationship
is a scummy move of hooking up with as
many girls as possible. I think it helps in a weird way. I really do. I think,
I really do think it helps. So I think, there’s only
meaningful relationships and then kind of like the
vanity of relationships when you break this down, and so he’s coming from a meaningful place and I think the vanity of it all, like the one, the one
micropositive that guys cliche will think about in this moment is, “Well, I can hook up with chicks,” and I think you have to go all in on that. That will last for about three
weeks to three months of fun and is a softener. I think you need to recognize
that you got off easy. I don’t know if it’s Bronx Tale or one of those gangster movies where the guy owes the kid, the kid owes the kid 20 bucks, and he goes and chases him,
and then the gangster grabs him and goes, “You got off easy. “You found out he was a
scum bucket for 20 bucks.” You know, brother, I
gotta be honest with you. I think you got off easy. I mean, it’s a hell of a lot
better that you didn’t propose, that she was, I give her credit. She, a lot of people, a lot of people mail it in and get married to
people that they ultimately aren’t fully 100% infatuated,
in love, and for full life, and I think people are mailing in. Now that divorce is so easy, I think that people just kinda do it, and I actually think, in a
weird way, you got lucky, and I actually give her a lot of credit that she, after a four and
a half year relationship, had the backbone and the guts
to go through a tough process I’m sure for her as well. And so I actually think you
look at this as a positive. I’m an optimist. It’s easy for me to say, but I think at some level,
you take a step back and recognize as much as it hurts now, it would have been tougher and hurt more to unwind after marriage or, what’s so difficult for so
many, after having children which creates such a different dynamic and becomes extremely difficult. And so, you know, there’s
not much I can say that’s gonna make it
feel a whole lot better. Maybe just talking it out and getting the question on the show. The e-mail was asking
for it to be on the show? Or are we just taking somebody’s random? Oh it just, it came in, OK. So, that’s it man. I think, go hook up with some chicks to ease the pain for a few minutes, and then take a step back and
recognize it’s a positive, and then try to learn from the experience and find out the qualities
you really loved in her and try to replicate them in
the next relationship you have, and you know, maybe even find the things that you didn’t like as much in her and try to close the gap and find somebody you love even more.