when starting up
VaynerMedia from scratch?” – Seth, you know this
is another place for me to give a little bit of insight. Believe it or not, yes, not
doing Wine Library day to day with my dad. Yes, the notion of
taking the risk of being in another family business and
not ruining the relationship with A.J. Confident on both fronts. The hardest thing was actually
being crippled by options. The notion that over
the first nine months, it was very difficult
for me not to think about the fact that me and
A.J had 800 other things we could have done and did
we pick the right thing. I think a lot of people
who are watching this are always crippled. I get this a ton, which is
why I picked this question. Well, I didn’t pick it, you
know, Steve picked or we picked, you know, how did we pick it? – [Steve] This one was collaborative. – This was a little more
collaborative, right? You tried to give me a different question and I said, “No.” No. I like this one, because it
allows me to give an answer to my audience that I see a
lot of you struggling with. It’s been asked of me a
ton on email, twitter, and other places, which is, at some point, you’ve gotta
put your big boy pants on and say, “I’ve made this decision.” And you move on. The buyer’s regret or remorse, or like, did I do the right thing? Or crippled by options is
something so many of you are struggling with. And I struggled with it as well, especially with all the
opportunities that I’ve been able to be given. I’m so fortunate that I’m
struggling with, like, should I do a national TV show? Should I extend the fund by 10 times and do a quarter billion dollar fund? Should I quadruple down on Vayner? You know, I’m crippled. I’m crippled by options, which
is a blessing and a half. And so the hardest thing
was, in 2009, was like, is this the right thing? Don’t forget, Vayner
started in 09, May of 09. Misha was born in May of
09 and Crush It! came out in October of 09. So there was all those
other things going on. The struggle, the hardest thing was not starting the business. It was second guessing, was it the right use of
my time and A.J.’s time and upside and talents at the time. And that’s it.

Amy S. Savvysexysocial.com,
maybe you remember me, hi! – Of course. – My question is, I’m finding
that the more I travel, more events I go to, it’s like this major
intensity constant high of meeting people, and great content, and it’s like so insane. And then I come home to
like, total normalness. And sometimes that is
such a drastic change, that it actually feels low,
when it’s not actually that low, it’s actually just normal. But you’re just coming down
from such a consistent high of being at a five-day
conference, and it’s like, crazy. How do you stay level, between all these events that you do, because you actually instill
the intensity in people when you go speaking and
all that kind of stuff. I’m just trying to find some
balance in my life, Gary. Trying to find the balance,
I think you’ve got it. I think you got it. Help me out! – Amy, you’ve got me pegged. I do have it. I am equally as fired up sitting by myself on a six-hour flight in an airplane, as I am speaking in front of 7000 people, being the person that is the
Puff Daddy of that event, which is the hype artist. Yeah, yeah. And so, you know I’m not sure,
maybe it’s very similar to the question that we just did. I do have that balance because I’m thankful for
what is in front of me. I very much live in the moment. One of my flaws, and/or my gifts, is that I’m so into what
I’m doing, of that moment, that I do forget about my
family, or my responsibilities, ’cause I’m so zoned in. Right now I’m literally could
care less of what’s going on with anything outside this cube, ’cause I’m zoned into
the #AskGaryVee show. So I’m very all in on what I’m doing, and so when I come back from that high, first of all I’m pretty
much high, although, I mean, I can create high from calm if I need it, ’cause I’m hyped. And excited. Yeah, I know, I don’t, this is an answer that’s very difficult. I wanted to show this answer because I appreciate the question, ’cause I think a lot of
people think about it. But the truth is, this
is something that comes very natural to me. It’s intuitive. I would just ask all of you,
and I talk a lot about this, I tweeted out quite a bit
over the last two weeks about my grateful kind of post on Medium. I think gratitude, Amy. I mean, just be grateful,
be grateful that you have some down time and it’s
just normal, and it’s nice, and you get to see your
core friends and family, and be very grateful
that you’re lucky enough to go to five-day tech raves, where you can be on that high. – [Voiceover] Duke asks, what
would you say A.J. has learned