“help stop the stigma
around mental health?” – Well, that’s taking
it into a different place. Right, mental health issue
versus meditation but that’s where he’s asking.
– [Andy] Yeah. – What do you think about that? – Well mental health is
a really broad scope so how would we
define mental health? We could talk very
narrowly about something, anxiety. It’s something a lot of people,
it’s the number one thing I hear people talk to me about. Anxiety and I think that’s a
mental health issue and I do think one of the best antidotes
to anxiety for me when I was having panic attacks and anxiety
bouts was learning to be mindful which is just learning
to be present right now. I did it by following my hands
around in the day and it let me not worry basically because
I was forced to be present. And so it was actually a very
profound tool for change for me. – Can I interrupt
you for one second? – Yeah, go ahead. Before we get into guns.
– Yeah. Before you get into guns, and by
the way I’ve done an incredible job not interrupting. I know all of your
watching, I’ve crushed it. Are they commenting?
I’ve crushed it. Biting nails.
– Mhmmm. – Now that frickin’,
you know I’m so curious, do you know anything about,
is you looking at your hands, is biting nails
something that I’m… Listen, I’ve got Jewel. She knows her shit,
I’m excited here. Biting nails,
do you think that’s a move? – A move? – Like the way you did that, am
I so at peace and pumped because I bite my nails all the time? Like I’m trying to
figure out what that means. – Do you bite your
nails all the time? – Yeah. When I’m
really in an interesting spot. – Mhmmm. My guess is that’s how you’re
handling a type of anxiety and you’re gonna think and you’re
gonna figure things out and that’s your way of doing it. I don’t know if you’re mindful
while you’re doing it or if it’s an absent distraction. – No, it’s
definitely not mindful. – Yeah.
– I’m just not. I’m just like, wait,
fuck, I’m eating my hand. Keep going.
Gun control. – True to yourself,
so mindfulness would be, “Oh, I’m eating my nails.” – Yes.
– Get curious about it. Just observe it.
– Yep. – That’s mindfulness.
– Got it. – And it takes you from
being hijacked by your brain to back to being the driver.
– Yeah. – I’m in control
of my brain, Jewel. – Yeah? If you’re biting your
nails and you don’t know why I’m not sure that you are. – Well, I respect that but
that’s only a micro one example on a macro level, anyway.
– Good to know your answer. – Guns. Guns? – I think guns are
a mental health issue. – I do too. In a big way. – I think it’s really
important to focus on. Learning to calm our anxiety,
learning about mental health does nothing but help our entire
culture a multitude of ways. And so, I would encourage
both sides of the aisle to start looking at
mental health, mindfulness, mental health solutions
instead of talking about highly polarizing things
look at the deeper cause. – [Andy] Do you think there’s a
stigma around those solutions? – I do and I often
have people say like, “Why do you, how do
you talk about this? “Isn’t it scary?”
And I look at them and go, “Have you never not
felt anxiety? Jealousy? Fear? “Am I inventing new emotions
somebody’s never come up with?” No. I don’t know why
people don’t talk about it. – I think we’ve had enormous progress in the
last half decade. This was not even
being talked about. – Yeah. – Ten years ago this
was (clicks tongue) zero. – I did a pre-tape interview
for the “Today” show and we were talking about the movie
that’s coming out and she said, “I looked at your
website,” she talked to me about mindfulness
the entire time. That would not have
happened to me five years ago, two years ago. I was flabbergasted.
– 100%. – Yes, I said
flabbergasted. Two points. – (laughs) Tell me
two seconds about this.

culture and look at zeitgeist. Where is culture
swinging and where do I authentically
intersect with that? For me, I’m great at connection and I love the
technological age. I love how
accessible information is. I love that with
education at our fingertips. I love that it’s
disrupting everything. It have the tremendous ability
to cause a distraction addiction and we need to be careful with
our children and with ourselves of how we consume. Now what does that mean?
It’s a very interesting topic. How do we consume in a way that
doesn’t hurt our mental health? That doesn’t cause
neural pathways of addiction and distraction addiction and that’s actually a
very fascinating topic. – I think the thing that a lot
of people are talking about, Simon Sinek has a video that’s
going viral on this right now. I think the question
becomes that we never do is what was the alternative?
– Mhmmm. – So, it’s one thing to say that
we’re addicted to this and we’re spending our time on this. My question is
that same human being, what would they have been
doing with this time– – Mhmmm.
– in 1989? Would they be
addicted to television? I had plenty of friends who
played 11 1/2 hours of Nintendo. – Yep. – You know we’re deploying our
angst against the medium and we’re not looking at
the human being enough. – Absolutely. – You know there’s a lot of,
there’s a lot of kids sitting in their room on their phone all
day long creating Instagram accounts and doing
stuff that would’ve been on the street doing something bad. Like this thought that it’s all
bad is very fascinating to me. I don’t know. I am unbelievably
pro-human being. – Yeah. – I mean back to just data
and behavior and patterns, like we’re still here.
– Yeah. – Like we’ve
had all the ability, when you think about what we could be doing to
each other negatively. We’ve all, there’s so much
carnage that could happen in one second and we don’t and so we
are scared of what we don’t know and I think that, I think that
I’m surprised by the collective cynicism of the of
the American market, for sure, around these
technologies but it makes a lot of sense to me because
every time there is a massive communication shift we
are very cynical of it. – Yeah. And we’re frightened. – We’re scared.
– But what I love is the Millenials already
have the antidote. So they’re already a
product of the culture of being, having the ability to do this
and look at their screen and what are they telling us? We want experiences,
we don’t want things. – Of course.
– That’s the antidote. We get to get out
and have experiences. – Guys, this is nothing
compared to VR in 20 years. – Mhmmm. – People are
gonna sit in their home. You’re never
gonna see them again. They’re gonna put their contact
lenses on and they’ll be gone. This is, I’m being, this is it. Be happy that they’re
actually out and about looking at the phone ’cause of
the San Diego in a pod and they’re not coming out.
– Right. Yeah. – Andy? Really though
because by the way,– – Yeah? – to your point, and I
see where you’re going. It’s why we’ve
always loved reading books, and watching movies. We need to escape–
– Yeah. – for our mental health.
– Mhmmm. – That’s what this is. It becomes the
alternative universe. The much more extreme version
of that is gonna be the virtual reality world when they
can absolutely in 20 years technology put in
contact lenses and be somewhere. – I always add in caveat–
– Go ahead. – a lot of people talk
to me about mindfulness and, you know, about
being in your head. It’s actually not about,
we do need an escape. – Yes. – Our minds will
run us, they hijack us. – Yeah. Yep. – And so a lot of us use
escape so that we don’t, so that we can escape our minds. I look at our bodies
as an amazing machine. And it’s an amazing machine, our brain is
actually not the driver, it’s the steering wheel. So who’s the driver? I think it’s our observer. When we get so
caught up in our mind we’re desperate for an escape. For me that’s when mindfulness
tools come into play with how we interface
with everything. You have to give yourself a
break from your mind that’s healthy habit and not
just constantly a distraction. – Jewel, just because
you’re so deep in this. This is what I want
to ask you for me. I’m being selfish now. I don’t know the answer. I’m curious for
your perspective. I don’t need an escape.
– Mhmmm. – I don’t want to escape. I’m super duper pumped.
– That’s good. – Like I mean it. Like, I’m even
scared to do meditation, this is real because I’m so
happy with my mental state that I don’t anything that
rejiggers anything ’cause I never need an
escape from anything. I’m super it’s true, And. I deal with plenty of stresses
and things of that nature. I don’t know, I like it. It’s fine, it’s part
of the, I don’t know. What do you think about that? – I don’t know what
to think about that. But I know you
can trust yourself. – Yeah, and?
Have you seen that? How do you think about that? It’s just interesting to me that I don’t gravitate
towards an escape at all. – That’s awesome. – I don’t want to, I want to
stay in my head all the time. – Yeah?
– It’s cozy. – Uh-huh. What’s it like in there?
– Fucking awesome. – Yeah?
(group laughter) That’s good.
– Alright, And. One more time.
One last one?

My name is Bo Muchoki. I’m a real estate agent and
a motivational blogger and I have a question for you
about self-awareness. You’ve spoken a lot
about this topic and how to gain self-awareness. You’ve also touched on how
meditation is a trend that’s really gonna take over and be
in every household in the near future so what are your thoughts on how to gain self-awareness
through meditation. I, myself, gained a lot of
self-awareness and clarity on who I am and what my actual
goals are through meditation so what are your thoughts on how meditation can help you
gain self-awareness? Thanks. – Bo, thanks for the question. I think the answer is,
I believe. I believe I believe you. There’d be no reason for you
to make this video and lie. I believe that there’s a lot of
people that are gonna gain it. I’m a very, very, very strong
advocate for way more discovery by the human race around
understanding the brain and mental health, mental fitness,
mental, mental, mental. I promise you that when it’s all
said and done for me people will realize that that was
the game that I won. That that’s the
gift that I was given. That that was where
I had all-time skills. It’s just we’ve grown up
in a world and I, for the last 40 years, where
that wasn’t the conversation. People can tell if you’re
pretty or good at athletics. Nobody rolled up
on me and were like, “Yo, bro your brain
is on point.” Right? I’d say that because when I say
brain I mean the mental pillars of emotional intelligence that
are the foundation of everything I’ve been talking
of last four years. You could tell me
I’m good at school. Memorizing something
and regurgitating. That’s not what
we’re talking about. It’s having that centering,
having that place, that energy that allows you navigate
through all adversity. Not getting too
high in your highs and not getting too
low in your low. It’s balance. It’s the contradictions
that make me me. I want awesomeness for everybody
but I want to punch all of you in the face too because if
you want to compete with me, you’re gonna lose and
it’s all that stuff. Sorry, India. And that’s all that stuff and
so it’s all of that foundational stuff that we need
a lot more for and if meditation through a process is what unlocks
people to be happier, to be more grateful, to deploy more empathy
to do all the tried and true cliché things that would make
the world awesome, awesome then we would be in a
really, really good spot. And I don’t believe that there’s
Nirvana and it’s gonna be perfect but moving anything
just a little bit really works. We’ve had world wars. We’ve had in epidemics. We’ve had enormous atrocities. We continue to do
them in the world today. There’s genocide and people are confused and
so yeah I’m I’m all ’bouty, ’bouty, I don’t even
know why I said that but I was thinking about
Master P the other day. I’m all about, all about
people understanding that mental health, meditation all these
things have a lot of upside and that we do not understand anything about
the brain currently. Just an enormous, vast
opportunity for us over the next century to learn more about this
and I’m excited and grateful that my great, great, great,
great-grandchildren will live in a world where that will be understood far more
in a substantial way. In the way that people died
from disease that we so easily navigate through today,
all these unhappy people, and all these tragedies, and all these negatives
that are completely, completely coming from the fact
that the mental status of that person isn’t in the best place
it could be are gonna be an amazing challenge for our race, for our world, for who
we are as humans. And I’m really into it and
I really bank that that is where so much of my
happiness comes from. I’m actually quite sad that I’m
not to be able to see it where it’s gonna be 100 years from
today unless somebody figures out technology and I’m into it. I’d be pumped to be a buck 40. I will Yoda this
fuckin’ world up. And so that’s that. – [India] “I will Yoda
this shit up” as a t-shirt.

“do you believe we find
ourselves or create ourselves?” – That’s a deep question. How self-aware do you think
you are if I asked you that? – Very.
– Me too. – Very. – Who do you think is
more self-aware, me or you? – Me.
(group laughter) – [Gary] You know what I feel.
You know what I feel. – I think you think it’s you.
– [Gary] Of course. I genuinely think I’m the
most self-aware person on Earth. – Right, right,
I don’t know, Gary. I’m waking up at
3 o’clock in the morning. – I’m texting you at 2:53
tomorrow morning and I haven’t even gone
to sleep yet. (group laughter) – Well, I did go to sleep. – That’s a really nice
question, what you think? – I believe, I believe that
in our book we just came out “Average Skill,
Phenomenal Will”– – [Gary] Is that
your first book? – Third book. – [Gary] How are
you in book world? You good at it?
– Yeah, we’re good at it. – [CJ] Very good.
– Very good. – How good?
– [CJ] Underground. – What do you mean underground? – Garage.
– Really? Self published from
the garage? Like, what? Open up the trunk and
selling it from the back? – Absolutely.
– Love it. – [CJ] And online. – I know. I’m kidding. Have you ever considered
going main publishing? – [CJ] We have but we
didn’t like the numbers. I’ll be honest, when we started
out we had such a big following that a ton of supporters right
off the bat said we’ll buy this as soon as it
comes out at $25.99– – Yeah. You’re like why go
share it with other people? – [CJ] You’re right.
They’re like $4 a book. We’re like, yeah
we’ll go over here. – [Gary] Yeah,
totally understand. – So for us, in our third book,
“Average Skill, Phenomenal Will” underdog we believe that you
don’t have to have phenomenal skill but if you have a
phenomenal will you’re not going to quit, you’re not going to
stop, you’ll be successful the very first chapter, this is why
I think I’m more serious about it, the very first
chapter is self-awareness. The very first chapter. – Really? Because you know
what’s funny about my book, talk about who’s more serious. I put self-awareness in
my mother fucking title. I put it in my title. You got chapters, I got titles. You got chapters, I got titles. – Yeah, you got on the cover.
He’s got it on the cover. – I think it’s a really
interesting question. I think that’s one that we’ll
never really fully figure out. I’m always wondering
was this my destiny or did I mentally create it? I think it’s a very fine line. I definitely think
there’s elements of both. – Absolutely. – And I’m a big
believer in momentum. I’m sure as you
started feeling it– – Oh yeah. – momentum is real. I do think a lot of things like
I think a lot about sports and you see that athlete who matured
a little bit late, right, had a big second year and
then all of a sudden it’s like wait a minute. You know what’s funny,
I started a sports agency called VaynerSports.
We just started. We’re recruiting kids. I’m talking to these kids when did you think you
could be a pro? Right, they’re like juniors
right now seniors about to come out. And a lot of them were like after this one game my
sophomore year. – Wow. – Like multiple people said it.
– After one game? – One big game, right, or when
my homie went to the league and I was dogging him in practice. I’m like, wait a minute,
Jerome’s going to the league? – That underdog.
– Yeah. But what’s interesting what I’m
trying to make the connection is when they said that, when
they made the decision that they could go in to the league,
everything changed. They worked out more,
they played better, they ate better, they went down to one
girlfriend instead of seven. My one man I was
dying when he said that. But it’s funny, it was the
mental decision that created their actions.
– Absolutely. – I got my health together two
years ago, it was a mental game, then I got there, now I’m there. – Yep.
– It’s very mental. – It is. – I don’t think we talk about
the brain enough in our society and I think that’s going to be a
big subject that we’ll discover and I think people will look
back at some of the things we talk about and others 100 years
from now and be like wow, they were early on to understanding
how much the brain could do versus all the
other intangibles. – Absolutely. Yep. – Alright, ET, you get to
ask the question of the day.

“What if you have a troubled
past that you overcame? “Hide it or embrace it?” – Well listen, I mean,
this is a tough question, it’s something I think a lot about, and I do think, and you’ve
been hearing from me, meditation, mental health,
I think the next frontier in the next 50 years of society, within the business
context, within society, gun control,
all these other things, we’re going to be talking
more and more about the brain. Mental health, mental status. You know, there are
people in this world that come from such tough beginnings. We talk a lot about
poverty, and opportunity, I think because we talk
about entrepreneurship. We don’t talk, I don’t talk, a lot about you know,
you were raped as a child, your parents were murdered. You know, some of these really
extreme, difficult things. I don’t understand, or know,
what Joe’s troubled past or if he’s referring
for a friend or himself. I think we all have
different versions of a troubled past. Like some people
would say I got bullied, and that was my troubled past. Others would say
I was sexually molested, and that’s my troubled,
like these all vary, and so Joe what I would say
is I have no interest in sitting here on a high
horse and deploying generic blanket statements. I think that we should be, I do think that being
yourself 100% is something that people are attracted to. I think all of us, in
the same way that America actually doesn’t hate the crime, they hate when you
try to cover it up, because we know that you
are not being authentic, and you’re trying to trick me, I think that’s the same
reason we react so well to people that go very far, that own up to things,
that are super transparent, that are willing to go there, and so what I would
say is, you know, you should challenge
yourself to go as far down that funnel as you can
because it is absolutely an attractive quality
that creates opportunity, happiness, business
opportunities for one. However, I don’t think you
have to air your dirty laundry, and I do think that
there’s a lot of help, and many other things
that people have to do to be able to share things. I do not feel comfortable
sitting here saying yes, share your deepest,
darkest things, because maybe you’re
not emotionally ready. I don’t know you on
an individual basis. What I can tell you is
that everyday I try to push harder in exposing
more of my thoughts, and exposing more of my truths, and exposing more
of my weaknesses, and exposing more of my scars, and it’s a struggle for me, because you guys have seen
over the last DailyVee’s I don’t spend a lot of time
on my weaknesses or my past. From yesterday’s
episode’s first question, I don’t hold grudges,
I don’t have a shit list. It’s because I just don’t
believe in containing negativities, and so
the only reason at this point in my life I’m trying
to think about my flaws or my struggles, is I want to give you, the
people who have decided to give me your time, I feel a
sense of responsibility to all of you that are
giving me your time. How many people are
on there right now? – [Voiceover] One point five. – For the 1500 of you right
now that are on Facebook Live, I feel a sense of responsibility
that in the middle of the day, or if you’re in
Europe, later in the day. The fact that right now
1500 of you could be doing something completely different, but I have been
gifted your attention, which I think is the
number one asset, I’m trying to challenge myself, I’m trying to challenge myself, to expose some of my weaknesses
and things of that nature, but it’s a real struggle for me. You know,
so I’m almost the reverse, like I can’t even
begin to think about my tough upbringing
or different things, like I don’t think
about the bad things. Like I think about them,
I deal with them, they’re a reality,
I don’t dwell on them, I spit them out and
I move forward. I think this is a very
personal question Joe. I think it’s like work/life balance. I don’t have an interest
in sitting on this show trying to force
somebody right now that had a very horrible
thing happen to them, and they’re going to write a
blog post about it tomorrow, and they weren’t
emotionally ready, and they can’t deal
with the repercussions of putting it out there. That is not my place, but I will say that everybody, if you can get there, I think there’s a lot
of healthiness to it. – [India] From Matthew, what
was it like to go around?