do you practice to keep focused?” – Raymond, that’s a good question. Daily rituals to keep focused. You know, now that I’m a year and two days into my physical regimen, that is what you would think is one of the things I do, but I don’t. I do not find that my working out has done anything for me
mentally, I really don’t. I don’t feel any different mentally today than I did a year ago. I don’t sleep better. The only thing that’s happened is I just look way better, and you know, that’s that. I’m sure there’s plenty of other, I’ll probably live a lot longer, that’s that thing. I feel much stronger, by the way. Traveling is where I’m really feeling it, just little silly things
like grabbing my suitcase. I think I only have one ritual which is in parallel to the way I live my life. Even right now, as I’m
talking to you guys, there’s a little part of my
brain that’s always moving. It’s just like think of
it as a hamster wheel, and it’s always just reminding
myself to keep things in perspective. I think my daily ritual. How was the question phrased again India? – [India] It was phrased daily
rituals to keep you focused. – To keep my focused, I think the one thing
that keeps me focused is the perspective of
understanding how lucky I am, how good life really is, how
the things I complain about are not that big of a deal
in the scheme of things, how at moment’s notice I can get a text right now while filming this show and have the tragedy of my life
happen, and every second that doesn’t happen,
how thankful I should be for that, because those
are real scenarios. These are things that
you and so many of us deal with on a daily basis. Now that I have a 530 person company, HR sends me an email inevitably every week to two weeks of very scary things, like people’s families having
tragedies of death or people being diagnosed with illness. Just real stuff, real stuff. I am stunningly capable
outside of New York Jets football to understand
in check, in emotion, how 99% of things don’t matter. My daily ritual is
actually my ritual that I keep at an every second basis. It’s my moment, every second ritual of keeping myself in check to recognizing what is
important versus what’s not. Sure I get frustrated and
concerned and worried, but it never has a sustained level of a feeling, because I just put things in perspective so well and I’m so thankful for that gear. I really wish I knew how to teach it. I think the only thing I try to do is put it out to you guys. I’m hoping that somebodys like geez, that seems like hope you’re looking at
me or listening to me right now and saying, gee that sounds fun. You’re right, it is. I’m a very outrageously, stunningly, over the top happy person,
because of this gear. It is very difficult
for me to have sustained unhappiness because of this vehicle, and it also allows me, and
I really do believe this, allows me to affect the people around me whether they’re consuming
me on a daily basis or they work with me, to actually level themselves. Stunwin, as someone who I find
very cynical and different than me, straight up, no
bullshit, because I don’t care and you know that. Don’t bullshit me. Do you feel that this, how long have we been
jamming together now? 18 months, where are we at now? – A little over two years now. – Sorry, in these two years, do you feel that the answer, I don’t know how much you were listening, you
seem like you were working which is a nice change of pace. – Thank you, thank you Gary. – Stunwin, do you feel,
no bullshit, no bullshit, do you feel that you’ve moved at any level to be more optimistic, bigger perspective, happier? – Absolutely. – Talk about it. I know it, because I can see it from afar. I’m pumped to hear that, but I’m curious how you quantify it. How much? Or how or what, or talk? – I would say that the thing that you all, you say that resonated with
me the most is the whole you’re 100% in control
of your situation and don’t bitch about it. – You’ve changed in that way. – Yeah, in a big way, absolutely. – Yeah, you’re right. I think about you three years
ago, you complained more. – I complained a lot. – Yeah, no really. And you feel more in control. – 100% yeah if I have a problem, everything is fixable as opposed to – And talk to me as somebody whose, when did you start watching Wine Library TV? – 2007 I think. – The difference of being this, so you said, I listened very carefully. I’m a good listener. The thing you said that resonated with me you followed me for a long time. How long have you been at VaynerMedia? – Three years this month. – For almost a full year,
you weren’t as inner circle with me. Was it watching the execution
of that non-complaining that triggered it, or was
it just momentum or what? I’m trying to figure out what I wanna do for them
is what’s the difference between what they are experiencing which is what you
experienced, which is you’re listening to it versus
clearly being able to see it in real life. You see all the, you’re in my inbox, you know the insanity that I – I know what it is. It’s that you encourage
people to take control of the situation, and what
happens is the first time somebody actually acts on that and says, I have a
problem with this person and instead of bitching
and complaining about it, they actually take control
of the situation and they say, hey this is a problem. How do we fix it? People are afraid to do that. They think it’s gonna backfire. They think, I’m not allowed
to give that person feedback, or I’m not allowed to
act on this, because it’s not my job, or I’m not
senior enough or whatever, and the first time you do
it, and it doesn’t backfire, and it actually works, because you asked for what you wanted, it’s like oh shit, that’s actually really empowering. – And let me teach you about scale. That’s awesome, in that what I know and I’m gonna give you
a little love here is going from that what he just said which is complaining and
not doing anything about it, to the next step which
is doing something about it, but what Steve has
done, unlike others. I’m super pumped they’re just doing it. What Steve has done that I’ve noticed is not only that, then empowering others to do the same, and that my friends is scale. That my friends is how
you go from a small base to a big base when you are so religious and you suffocate all the wrong, and you try to teach, and you have people that level up to it, so that saves you time, but then some break through and actually teach it as well, and help me scale it and know much of a religion it is. That’s when you start really scaling it, and that’s who the hell knows how we got to this point. I don’t even remember the question, the daily ritual. That’s my ritual, and not only is it my ritual it’s my religion, it’s my passion, and it is probably fundamentally
why I do this damn show, because I’m so desperate for you guys to do the same, because
it’s just way better.

– [Voiceover] Ginson asks, “Do you work “on your birthday?” (spitting) – Couple things, my man. Number one, I hate my birthday. My 40th birthday is coming November 14th of this year. That was a little bit of a specific drop, mainly ’cause I want
the entire VaynerNation to buy me a lotta gifts, Jets jerseys of random rare players are at the top of the things that I like, medium. I’ve worked on every birthday of my entire life, all of them. Literally, even some in my teenage years, ’cause they happened to fall weekends when my dad was draggin’
my ass to the store. But since I became a
full-time professional at 22, I’ve worked every birthday. I’ve given a talk. I gave a speech, the RE/MAX convention for Thank You Economy came out during my birthday. Like, gave a speech on my birthday. Yeah, absolutely, that was a silly question. 100% all in. You wanna do what you
love on your birthday. I’m lucky enough to
be doing what I love. – [Voiceover] Ben asks, “How do you handle

“to speak in front of an auditorium full “of elementary schoolers,
what would be your topic “of choice and why?” – My topic of choice, so first of all if I was in a room full of
elementary school students, like I was once ever in my
career which was in Houston in a tremendous conference that I went to where it was the best students
from elementary school of all of Houston and I
cursed up a storm and I talked about like all sorts of crap. I remember I tried to connect with them so I was using like random hip
hop artists that were popping at the time and the teachers
were literally flabbergasted and completely pissed off and the kids were completely pumped. And like these were like
the greatest students of like seventh and eighth
grade in all of Houston and like a third of the class
quit school in seventh grade when I was done with the talk. Because what I really talked
to them about was real life which is look you’re a great student, you’re goin’ down a
certain path right now. Bad news, education in
America is screwing you over. You’re gonna pop out and
you’re gonna realize holy crap I don’t wanna do this or this
and that and then I talked about the virtues of good schooling. Which is the randomness of
having a college roommate that’s a billionaire and some
of the other random stuff. But you know it was a tremendous talk. My choice of topic today,
if I was to do it today, would be you know I would tell them to really recognize how to build self-esteem and self-awareness. I would pound that and I would say look, you’re looking at me and
I’m an old dude up here and I’m cliche just like all
your other teachers and parents but you need to find the
things that you’re good at and really find the friends
that you’re looking for and you know you hear it a million times that you’re not gonna look back and care about the dumb shit
that you care about now but you don’t believe me,
but that’s not gonna stop me from trying to pound it down
you’re little f- throat.

“In your mid-twenties, do you
wish you had done more things “or focused more on one thing?” – Great question, Yule. In my mid-twenties, I
focused on one thing. I actually was completely
all in on Wine Library. There was nothing else. I’ve said in the show before
that I wish I went out and hooked up with some more
chicks and had fun some fun. That was one thing I wish
I did because I was so, you wanna talk about being
focused on one thing, as a 20-year-old guy in my twenties, it’s actually uncomfortable
how focused I was on the hustle and building the
infrastructure of my career. You know, I think at some
level when you look back, you’re always, you know, I’m equally, this is where I’m like a paradox. I’m equally completely pumped
’cause look how happy I am and those were great
times and I’m happy now, like I would never change anything. At the same token, you’re
always looking back, and be, like, “Ah,
damn, I could have this, “I could have done that.” Yule, I’m pretty happy with
the way things have played out. I don’t like to play
Monday morning quarterback with my life, but I think it served me well. I learned real foundational
skills of how to run a company. It’s why I’m hyper focused
and why I’m capable now to run a company while
doing a couple more things ’cause I know what it takes,
which is serious focus, but once in a while,
you jump in into a show when you didn’t have to. And so that’s where I’m at with that. Thanks for the question, Yule.

and Gary, the question I have for you is about all this talk you’ve had about self-awareness lately and I love the idea of
understanding what our talents are and what they’re not but my fear is that we’re gonna get into a mindset of things we can and can’t do. Robert Browning says, “A man’s reach should exceed his grasp.” I want people think that they can try and do a lot of different things and I’m afraid it’ll bleed to our children and make them start saying
what they’re good at and what they’re not good at. Let me know how you feel about that and how you can incorporate that into your self-awareness talk. – Ted, big ups to you. First and foremost, you’ve
been, you know, again, back to the theme of the show not digging fully deep, I’m not completely sure
but it’s been really fun to watch from afar of
you amassing an audience and people really respect
you and kudos, do your thing. I think this is a great
question and a challenging one. First and foremost, here’s
the way I answer it. This. Nothing completely one way
or the other is ever healthy. You should always be
pulling from directions, finding a blend. I will say that I think people
are way more, at this point, June 2015, in belief that
they can do anything, are good at everything,
should try everything, should work on their weaknesses so I believe that I’m being aggressive in starting a conversation
that lends itself to like drawing a line of
strengths and weaknesses that I think is very small. I do not believe this
is a big conversation. I believe modern parenting is like, hey little Steve, you
can do anything you want. Steve sucks at basketball. (laughter) He can’t do everything he wants and the amount of people
that want to play basketball for a living or sing or
wanna be an engineer. You know, like a, entrepreneur, I mean you know how I feel about that. So, I think that, Ted,
I think you’re right. I think right at this moment, my point of view on this is so small compared to the overall conversatIon that I’m going 100% all in and I don’t want to hedge
against it with your point which is correct because I think the whole
market’s hedging against it and thus, I’m just trying to crackle it. It’s the same way I talk
about social media marketing versus traditional TV. I believe in TV but I don’t
need to advocate for TV. 99% of the market’s advocating for TV. I believe that the
market, 90% of the market is advocating for you
can do whatever you want, you should try to do everything,
you should push yourself. They package it in you
should try new things and push yourself. I don’t think people
are talking enough about be very self-aware, know
what you’re good at, force yourself, guys, I don’t know if you’ve broken this down. Do you know what forcing yourself to be self-aware, do you know
what that process entails? Drinking a shit-load of humble kool-aid. Uh-huh, like it’s insane of how much, like, it’s why I talk about liking to lose. Like, it’s insane of how much humility I’ve had to instill to now
make it optically look like I have too much ego and self-esteem. So many of you, the first
time you consumed me, some of you, like I’m really
getting in my Facebook mentions as a lot of you have noticed. Plenty of people sharing my stuff and their friends are
saying screw this guy, ego for days, full of himself. I get it but what it actually is is the post game of me being really humble every minute of my life to recognize what I should stay away from. And I think people have
not gotten into that gear so Ted I would say that I
get it and I agree with you. And everything should
have a push and a pull. I just think the market is way, way in the direction of (pats Steve’s back) and I think that we need a
hell of a more a lot of like you kinda suck at that, you
may want to focus on that. Now, if you love that, then do it. But you need to know what
that comes along with which is if you love singing
more than breathing, cool but you’re gonna wait tables and you’re gonna make eight bucks and that’s great! Because guess what? I pay the price for doing what I love in a lot of different ways. And so that’s just life. That’s just life.

“the Donald running for president?” – Oh, India, you know I don’t like getting political questions. You snuck that in. I got caught for not
previewing them ahead of time. What do I think? I think this is America and everybody who wants
to run, should run. I’m very intrigued by the
story that’s come out about him hiring actors to be at his pep rally. I thought that was funny mainly because I was blown away that somebody would actually
do it for 50 dollars for the whole thing all day. – [Steve] You do know what it’s like being an actor in the city? – Clearly, I don’t. Because I think you can go to Goodwill for two hours, buy stuff,
and sell it on Ebay and make more than 50 bucks. Take that, all you actors. There’s a hack for you. I think that, I think he says a lot of outlandish stuff. I think that America is
more divided than ever on the left and right because people are self-selecting what they wanna listen to now because you do have Fox and CNN. You have the internet where you can go to very left and right places and I think it’s an intriguing
thing that’s happening in general in social media right now which is I’m very concerned that people are not getting
rounded scenarios to the world because it’s so easy for you to just go directly into what you believe and you’re having a very
intriguing thing happen in college where people are
seeing who their roommates are on Facebook before they go now, figuring out who they are, and then, kind of, asking out
and pairing up with, like, I’m a hipster and I wanna
room with a hipster. I’ve always been very proud of myself in doing controversial things like, for example, in
the height of post-9/11, going online, scared that I was going to Al Jazeera’s website
to watch the stream because I was, like, am I being, ’cause I already knew I was being watched before everybody knew
they were being watched. And I go I hope they’re not mad at this because I really do, you know, don’t forget I’m a
child of a Soviet family whose mother wrote a book report that Fidel Castro was the
bravest man in the world and believed it in her heart and soul that this little country right next to this bad empire America and then I grew up in
America and so, like, there’s always different perspectives. I think Donald will absolutely resonate with a small segment of
people on the right side. I’d be flabbergasted if
he won the nomination, but I think, my intuition net net is Donald has the capability of surfacing a conversation during this process that could be healthy. And I do believe that anybody
to the extremes of anything have that potential and I’m hoping that weirdly that gets people, reminds people we’re more aligned than we’re different and
right now it’s really intense in US politics in my opinion
on how separated we are and so my hope, as an optimist,
’cause that’s who I am. He brings a singular issue
during his short run, ’cause I don’t see him
winning the nomination, though he could, that
may actually bring value to the conversation. I’m intrigued by that potential probably more than anything. That was a pretty,

“two years and she still
refuses to acknowledge their “relationship on social media, red flag?” – Ryan, your brother is in deep (beep). Any relationship that
is two years old where one of the people in
the relationship has not acknowledged it publically
on a social network platform is up to some scandalous (beep). Period, end of story. There’s nothing else to being said there. I don’t want to hear that you like to keep it private, on the DL, scandalous. (laughter) (chatting in background)

“has been said to be the
female version of you. “Do you think society is ready, “and would she be treated the same?” (patronizing laughter) – Listen Give? – [India] Listen give. – India, you are picking some doozys on this weekend edition
of the #AskGaryVee show. This one’s got me up into a
higher level as you can tell. The female version of me, who
I think is Misha Vaynerchuk, my daughter, I’m watching
it though I can already see some differences, which is too bad. At first I would’ve thought
it was like a carbon copy. But I love her perfectly the way she is. No, I think if there was a
female version of me right now, she would struggle more,
because the truth is, society is flawed and white males get away with more things than
minorities, than females, and so I think the
world’s a lot more ready than it was five years
ago, or 10 years ago, or 15 years ago,
definitely, but do I think, you know, cursing, I mean,
if we’re going carbon copy, you know, cursing and that level of ego, and that combativeness of loving the competition, I think it would be less palpable to the masses, which is
massively unfortunate and I hope that day will change. At the same token, I think that, I don’t think people
recognize how much smaller my audience is by me being me. A lot of people see the plus side of it, I am not consumable to a lot of people. There’s three to four little tweeks that I’m fully in control on to change in a heartbeat that would
make me much bigger, I’m just not willing to do that, and I would hope that
your co-founder, right? Yeah, I hope that she is
just her all the way through and let the chips fall where they fall. I hope she doesn’t hedge
or tries to waiver, much like I hope she has no interest in trying to be just like me
if she’s passionate about me in a way that I try
not to be like anybody. There’s an incredible,
it’s the most cliche word right now in the game, authenticity, but it is stunning how much truth there, you know, it’s kinda like stereotypes. Stereotypes are uncomfortable, but like, let’s get raw, there’s
some truths to stereotypes, that’s how they become stereotypes. Authenticity is a cliche buzzword ’cause there’s some truth to it. People really appreciate you
rolling the way you’re rolling. People really appreciate when
I meet them in real life. They’re like, I mean, it’s
still stunning to people like, “Oh damn.” you know? I mean, I’m sure at episode 100 you guys had people coming up to you and saying, “Oh wow, that’s how he
is in real life.” right? People expect there’s a cynicism, and that’s why authenticity over-indexes, and so I highly recommend, so the answer to your question is no, I
don’t think it’s as accepted as me, and I think that’s unfortunate, but that’s just my true answer. Two, I hope that doesn’t
change any of her behavior.

what’s the best thing that’s
happened to you this week? – Oh, Good News Shared, that’s a good one. What’s the best thing that’s
happened to me this week? First of all, thank you so much, second of all, love the concept
of this Twitter account. Good News Shared, like
just share good news? Like, what’s the best thing
that happened to you this week? That’s a nice concept, I’m into that. The best thing that
happened to me this week, if you consider Sunday
the beginning of the week, I guess you should,
’cause it’s officially, I think that’s the way it actually is. Is it? – [Voiceover] Yes. It is right? I’ve forgotten this. Is that real life though? Sunday is the true, like, yeah, right? It’s not a normal– I would say the best thing
that happened to me this week was spending time with my kids being official, on Sunday, they really enjoy the outdoors, we went to, we’ve rented
a place for the summer and I have city kids, and
they’re starting to get older, and it was fun to watch them
kind of play in the yard, and really enjoy that experience and like spending real
quality time with them. It was, I had one of the– this is not a joke, I had
one of the best weekends of my life this last weekend, all predicated on family
time, it was fantastic. And that was the best part, just seeing, you know, my kids are, Misha turned six this week, Xander turns three later this summer. They’re starting to get to that fun age, it felt different, it felt different, it felt like, I think I saw a preview to
the next four or five years of fatherhood. That really excited me.

“Like why is my dad
following me on Instagram? “Like noo that’s unacceptable.” – Stephanie, I have bad news. Every social network that you go to to try to get away from Pops, when they hit scale,
Pops is gonna show up. Hey Stephanie? It’s your dad! This knick knack thing is real cool! That’s what’s gonna always happen for the rest of your life. And by the way, let me get a little bit deeper on that. Steve, you were about to say something. – I was just gonna say something
for the end of the show. Hold it til the end of the show. – Do it, do it, ruin the end of the show. – We’re on Spotify! – Whaddya mean? – You excited? I’m excited, we’re on Spotify. The #AskGaryVee Show. – It’s on Spotify? – I sent you four emails yesterday. (laughing offscreen) – Guess it was a busy day. That is cool. – [Steve] Yeah. – We’re on, see? It was a black and white announcement. This is a black and white announcement. We’re on Spotify. This was not a color announcement. This was a black and white announcement. We’re on Spotify. – [Steve] Her dad’s on Spotify, too. – And Stephanie, going back to you, and the entire VaynerNation, soon you’ll be a part of it, Stephanie. Yes you will. You know, I know it was weird, that creep Alex hit you up that somebody answered your question
on Twitter randomly. I love this whole thing. Making Alex the creepy
guy is so fun for me. (laughing offscreen) Look, that’s what just happens, right? It happened with Facebook, it’s happening right now with Instagram. The youth establishes these new kind of community centers for our society and then everybody follows. That’s a very interesting dynamic because I think that’s the reverse of the way human nature has been for a very long time. And so I think that the
youth culture of our society is now establishing the
main community centers. Not the hot new club. That’s different. This is the out and out community centers of our society. It’s going to have very
massive long-term effects on us as humans. I think that’s why we’re living through a youthification that I talk a lot about. And so that’s why it’s
happening, Stephanie.