– Hi Gary, this is Jelle from Amsterdam. This is why I need to be in Episode 14, because our biggest Dutch soccer player called Johan Cruyff he wore the number 14, so it’s really important
for us, for our Dutch man. And here’s my question, Gary. I’ve read a book in 2011 called Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. And that book changed my
life in a very positive way. I’m very curious about
you, Gary, did you read any books that changed your
life in a very positive way? Thanks. Big shout out to all the Dutch Vayniacs. The answer to this question
is pretty interesting, this is gonna be one
of the shorter answers. The answer is no. That pre-mentioned book that
I am planning on writing, if it’s my fourth or fifth
or sixth book, when I hit eight books, writing, I will
accomplish a very rare feat, which is that will be
the moment where I’ve written more books than I’ve read. I believe that one of
my core weaknesses is my lack of reading books. I just don’t read books. It is, I’ve read three
business books in my life. If you call the Steve
Jobs book a business book, John Battelle wrote a book called Search, about Google, and then
I’m trying to think, my favorite book I’ve
ever read was called Nine, it was about the Supreme Court. I’ve read like seven books.

“can piss you off?” – Ruke, you know, it’s
interesting, I’m not the kind of character that gets
pissed off so quickly. I’m pretty much a love and zen kind of guy for all my intensity, I
think that throws people off a little bit in reality. Obviously if you punch
me directly in the face, or hurt somebody I care about
right here, that would be bad. But overall the actual
answer to your question is hypocrisy and cynicism. Those are the two things
that I can’t consume. The amount of cynics out there, though it’s really one of
the funnier kind of cards that people play on
social media specifically, I see played less in real
life, really bothers me. And boy, if you’re
complaining about something you actually do, and I have
some friends and family members who play that, that just
drives me up the wall. – [Voiceover] Vineyard
Paul asks, “How do I use

Amy S. Savvysexysocial.com,
maybe you remember me, hi! – Of course. – My question is, I’m finding
that the more I travel, more events I go to, it’s like this major
intensity constant high of meeting people, and great content, and it’s like so insane. And then I come home to
like, total normalness. And sometimes that is
such a drastic change, that it actually feels low,
when it’s not actually that low, it’s actually just normal. But you’re just coming down
from such a consistent high of being at a five-day
conference, and it’s like, crazy. How do you stay level, between all these events that you do, because you actually instill
the intensity in people when you go speaking and
all that kind of stuff. I’m just trying to find some
balance in my life, Gary. Trying to find the balance,
I think you’ve got it. I think you got it. Help me out! – Amy, you’ve got me pegged. I do have it. I am equally as fired up sitting by myself on a six-hour flight in an airplane, as I am speaking in front of 7000 people, being the person that is the
Puff Daddy of that event, which is the hype artist. Yeah, yeah. And so, you know I’m not sure,
maybe it’s very similar to the question that we just did. I do have that balance because I’m thankful for
what is in front of me. I very much live in the moment. One of my flaws, and/or my gifts, is that I’m so into what
I’m doing, of that moment, that I do forget about my
family, or my responsibilities, ’cause I’m so zoned in. Right now I’m literally could
care less of what’s going on with anything outside this cube, ’cause I’m zoned into
the #AskGaryVee show. So I’m very all in on what I’m doing, and so when I come back from that high, first of all I’m pretty
much high, although, I mean, I can create high from calm if I need it, ’cause I’m hyped. And excited. Yeah, I know, I don’t, this is an answer that’s very difficult. I wanted to show this answer because I appreciate the question, ’cause I think a lot of
people think about it. But the truth is, this
is something that comes very natural to me. It’s intuitive. I would just ask all of you,
and I talk a lot about this, I tweeted out quite a bit
over the last two weeks about my grateful kind of post on Medium. I think gratitude, Amy. I mean, just be grateful,
be grateful that you have some down time and it’s
just normal, and it’s nice, and you get to see your
core friends and family, and be very grateful
that you’re lucky enough to go to five-day tech raves, where you can be on that high. – [Voiceover] Duke asks, what
would you say A.J. has learned

– [Voiceover] John asks,
when you’re in a funk, what do you do to get out of it? – John, you’ve asked a
question that I’ve been really excited to share with the world, because it works, it is very dark. Like, this is dark, so,
I know that most people when they share my content say, beware, potty mouth McGee. This one’s beware, you
may be like, frightened, with a little bit of like a teardrop on your left eye. Left. (thumping) I’m gonna tell you the truth, because that was the commitment
when I decided to do this, which, you know, obviously I’m able, well Steve’s curating the questions but I could always kibosh them, so, when I start doing these live,
or when we do live events, or we take this show on the road and it’s audience participation
then it’ll really be the full monty but for now, I’m answering them and I’m
answering them truthfully. This is a dark one, I’m
stalling ’cause it’s dark. It’s dark. When I’m in a funk, I
literally close my eyes, put myself into a place where, something remarkable happens to me. You know, CNN names me the greatest man of all time. You know, just literally
like silly things like, I get on a list of being
the best entrepreneurs, or, Birchbox sells for
four billion dollars and I make a lot of money, or, the full extreme, when
I’m in my most funk, I literally try, usually I
do things that are realistic, and happen within a one-year window. But in my deepest funks, I’ll project, this is harder, this is
a little more role play, ’cause when I think about stuff that’s gonna happen,
intimately, it feels real. But I’ll dream about buying the Jets. And I’ll think about those great things, and then I literally, I literally make pretend
that Birchbox sells, that I make millions
and millions of dollars, and that that’s the phone call, and the next phone call is
from my hysterical sister telling me that my mother
died in a car accident. And I really do that. And I really go there. And it very, like, I’m very, as you guys know me,
I’m an emotional character. I go there, and it really does
something interesting for me. I really don’t care that I
made seven million dollars, if my mom died. I just really don’t. And I can, even as I’m
telling you this right now, I can feel it, I can truly feel how little I care about that, in comparison to what I
would feel with that pain, and very honestly, it
just sets me straight. It just reminds me what my priorities are, and it allows me to
understand that the health of my children or my wife, I mean, the fear and the shivers
I get when I think about their passing, in, you know, in real live, like them dying. And it just sets me so straight. It just makes me realize, how non-important losing that client was, or that best employee, or that
deal, or that opportunity. Passing on Uber, in the first round, which would have given
me 100 million dollars. In paper, so they gotta go public. But it’s pretty damn in there. Is something I can deal with, because, the truth is, it’s just
not what makes me happy. And more importantly, I’m so happy that everybody I love has
been healthy for so long, losing grandparents early
has put me in that position, so a negative is a positive,
and that’s what I do. I go in a very strange cocoon, and make pretend that
people I love the most die. – Gary Vee,

– [Voiceover] Marin asks, do you ever complain and what’s your attitude
toward complaining in business and in life in general? – Marin, I appreciate this question and I’m curious how much you know me or if you’re asking that
because the truth is if you look at my historical tweets, hundred thousand plus, maybe there’s two complaints. You know, maybe you can get to three. One of the people I look
up to most in the world, maybe the person I look
up to most in the world tied with my dad, I know
dad, you might watch this, is my mother. And, hands down, and I mean, hands down, the thing that I find most
intriguing about my mom and probably one of the
things that I’m most happy that she’s passed on
to me is her inability, almost, to complain. I find it extremely attractive. I would tell you that I adore
my wife for that reason. As a matter fact, Xander
is whining too much and he’s only two and
I find it unattractive. I’m very against complaining. I’m very, put your head down. I’m very, don’t you
realize you’re healthy? Like, to me the only thing
you should complain about is the the unfortune, unluck of health. You know, somebody dying that
you love in a car accident or you becoming terminally ill. After that, it feels controllable. And so, I really dislike complaining. I try to, I talk a lot
about honey over vinegar. It’s an analogy I use a
lot here at VaynerMedia. I thrive on positivity and so the way I deal with complaining
is I try not to do it. I try to educate and empower people the lack of it’s value, I guess. I mean, I don’t have a gear. You know, when you go in my gear, like there is no, like, oh
let me go into complain zone. To me, it’s assess, figure it out, and go directly back on the offense. I’m a very offensive player. Complaining is the defense. – [Voiceover] Robert asks, I’ve
been doing a lot of jabbing,

that I’ve had to deal with, hands down, it has to be the fact of
siphoning off of Wine Library TV, Daily Grape, that routine of six years, and really leaving the day in, day out operations of the family business, that is the most emotional business. Working with my dad, kind
of this transition of being day in and day out with my dad, to being day in, day out with my brother, enormous emotion comes with that. I probably never even realized
that that would ever happen. It was a very big brain twist for me, that I would be transitioning
out of the family business into another chapter of my life, and I struggled with that quite a bit. A lot of heavy emotion, the relationships with the people at Wine
Library, my dad and I dynamics, just all these very interesting things that was happening right
when Misha was born. It was a very interesting time in my life. I was growing up, and
transitioning and changing. I dealt with it with what
I deal with everything, and really, probably the
cornerstone of my happiness. I dealt with it by over-communicating. The level of communication I had with the people involved was very high and allowed for it to happen. And so, that’s what I did. – [Voiceover] Damien asks,
“When you have a billion dollar

– [Voiceover] Kyle asks,
“What’s an area of life that you haven’t given
your fullest efforts?” – Kyle, great question, and I probably was willing to answer it because of how good I feel about this question. There were two places, 36 months ago, that I was struggling in. One was kind of the non-profit NGO. I was giving my dollars,
but I wasn’t giving my time. Now I am a very proud member of the board of Pencils of Promise, and I’ve gotten more involved with my time
which is the real asset. I feel like I’m checking
that box of giving back outside of my own family
and things of that nature, and so I feel good about that. And the other one is my health. I would say health was the
clear answer only 35 days ago. I guess now, maybe a
little bit more Gary time? Between kids and the
businesses, and now working out. AJ’s been pushing me, he’s
got into golf a little bit, I don’t feel like I’ve
been able to figure out, or crack, or hack, Gary time. I guess the Jets do that, but
then that’s really September to December I get that
Sunday for five, seven, eight, nine hours depending
if it’s a home or road game. I think January through September, finding something that’s just for me that I really enjoy is something I should probably figure out. But the truth is, it doesn’t
feel right to me right now. The kids are two and five, I
wanna kinda allocate to that, the health, I’m just
prioritizing other stuff. Hopefully, next two or
three years, Gary time. – [Voiceover] Shai asks, “How does

“all over again today,
would you start with “WineLibraryTV, or WineLibrary first?” – Drekken, great question, man. I’ve gotta say something,
look, a couple things actually, before I answer the fine question
and sign off on this show. Drekken, that’s a great
question, but two things. One, you guys are killing
it with questions. I’m hitting the hashtags and
seeing these all come through, I’m completely blown away. I mean, I was a little
worried that they’d all be the redundant same questions. You guys are coming from
all sorts of angles, so I appreciate it. And two, you know, this may be a scenario where some people’s
questions who watch the show every single day are
not gonna get answered for the first six months,
because of the lottery, of the randomness, and
so I apologize up front, keep asking them. Thank
you so much. I’m humbled. And to answer your question, hands down, I would do it over again
exactly the way I did it. Having the comfort that I
built this enormous business before I started the show,
put myself out there, in this zany way, and
had that air cover of respect for what I
accomplished and what I knew, helped me so much. If I started the show
when I came out the gate, when maybe I didn’t
know as much about wine, I didn’t know as much
about the wine business, I didn’t know as much about the audience, it wouldn’t have been as good. You know, chops, skills, the goods, they have a funny way of
working themselves out. And so no matter how you roll, if you can bring it, it’s a
hell of a lot more consumable. I appreciate the questions on Episode 6,

“was it for Misha or VaynerMedia?” – Mark, I left it for VaynerMedia. Misha was already two
years old at that point. This is August ’11, that I
think I shut down Daily Grape. You know it was five and
a half years of every day doing a video show, and
it just ran its course. I mean, the thoughts of
doing a video show every day would like freak me out right now. (comical clicking) (comical clicking) – [Voiceover] Andrew asks:
“How do you change the culture

Marie asks, what’s the biggest lesson
you’ve learned this year? Marie, that is a very simple question. By far the biggest question, biggest question, the biggest thing I learned and don’t edit it. I don’t edit here. Marie, the biggest thing
I’ve learned this year hands down is that prioritizing my health
is a really good idea. The fact that I am now going to the gym and eating healthy and I’m, what are we Tuesday? Is today Tuesday? So I’m 26 days in to
26 days of working out and times three. 78 healthy meals in a
row without cheating. The energy level is actually
down believe it or not because I was living on sugar but I just feel like a
totally different person. It was the absolute right decision for me. It’s changed my life. I’m heading in the right direction. I feel like a different person. I will be on this Earth longer for it barring crazy accident and I’m happy about that.