“Jewel, why do you think so many
people struggle to be happy?” – Because happiness
is a byproduct, not an actual destination. And so people have this
misconception that they’re gonna find happiness like it’s Europe and they’re never
gonna move out. (laughs) Happiness is a
byproduct of certain behaviors and can set yourself up to win and you can set
yourself up to be happy. The sad thing is happiness is a
learned skill and a lot of our houses don’t teach happiness. That was the situation
I was in and so I actually just started studying
people that were happy and I saw what
the algorithm was. What did they do that’s similar
and for me I don’t focus on happiness as much as harmony. I don’t really believe in the
word balance ’cause balance is a binary thing like oof,
it’s a great very tedious. Harmony is saying my
life has many components. I’m a woman,
I’m a mom, I am sexual,
I am spiritual. I’m a businessperson, all of
those limbs have to have tone and that brings about harmony. That brings about satisfaction. If only have one limb
that is very buff and the rest of us is atrophied, we have disharmony,
we have dissatisfaction but there’s no human school and so that’s what I’m
looking at starting. I want to be able to teach
people emotional and mindfulness skills so that they can
gain tone in every area. – From my standpoint, you know
since Jewel took it up here, I will take into one very narrow
place that I’ve been really try to spend a lot of time
on and that’s perspective. It’s so interesting to me why
I deem myself happy because I just am so grateful.
– Mhmmm. – Like the thing we got excited
about of you know the data behind being a human
being is 400 trillion to 1. When you just start there and
you realize forget about the odds of like beating
homelessness and like other or like being born in a communist
country like just actually becoming a human. I always make the joke that your mom could have had
another glass of wine. Or your dad could have
been late because of traffic. The odds are so insane. I’m just so grateful for what
I have versus what I don’t have and I think people just have all
these admirations and envy and all these hard-wiring things. To me, it’s perspective
just like there’s always, I just generally believe there’s
always somebody that has it worse and the problem is that’s
where I default into mentally and have practiced
to put myself there versus somebody’s got it better. – And the importance
with gratitude is, I do a gratitude
practice every night, and when you’re grateful,
you can’t be angry, you can’t be resentful. It literally just leaves
no room for anything else. – I’m just grateful. Alright, And.
– [Andy] Cool. Alan asks,–
– Alan.

It’s Keri here with
SurvivorRadio.org. We’re an online radio station
aimed for the cancer community. Our goals are to provide both
insight and monetary support for incidentals and cancer
patients all around the world. We’re a fairly new nonprofit
with limited resources. So how do we grow both
our listenership and our funding in 2016? What platforms should
we be doing this on? We’re trying to grow both
so looking forward to any answers man, thanks. – And I notice in the
copy he says the older demo. Keri, I would tell
you Facebook groups. I’m obsessed with
Facebook group virality. I would go and search Facebook,
look for groups whether it’s cancer support groups or people
that are passionate or have vibes in that environment or
just even general medical or different groups of that nature. Literally email the admin,
which you can do in those environments, try and join
them and see if those groups can bring some awareness. In the beginning,
you have to ask. When you have nothing else when
you don’t have dollars you have your creativity
and you have a grit. So you have to ask. Whether it’s influencers, I
mean look, you just did here. You asked on Twitter you
followed what were doing and now 50,000 people in a
week will see this. You’re going to
linked up in here. Staphon, let’s link of all the
organizations because I want to make sure everybody clicks
and finds out about them. In the same way that you
asked and you took a shot here hundreds of other people took a
shot and didn’t get on the show, won’t get the exposure. That’s
just the way the game works. I think Facebook groups the
older demo is actually a very, very intriguing play. Any other thoughts from your
standpoint on things that you’ve seen outside of your
own ecosystem where you had equity, Bob. Things that you’ve watched from
afar or have watched over the last 30, 40, 50 years of seeing
things grow from not having any leverage in the beginning and
them hacking their way or people that were able to get to you
through your career that had no relationship or anything but
just reached out to you and I thinking a friend who reached
out to Malone and a bunch of other titans in media and
actually got to spend the day with most of them because most
of them actually just said yes. – Let me offer a comment to you
that probably not directly on that point but something that’s
been bothering me for a year or so people come to me and ask me
how do I get into the business? You want to look at yourself and
decide what kinds of things you really want to be
associated with. You gotta kinda make some
decisions you can’t be dragging 15 different ideas. You gotta make some decisions. But given the situation today
especially with the Internet the best thing you can do when
you’re starting out is to get in the technical side
of the business. Learn whatever you can on the
technical side of the business. What you’re doing here with
the camera and you’re picking up information how do you use the
Internet from a standpoint of the technical part. You become very
valuable to other people. Whether it’s a not-for-profit
especially not-for-profit where everybody wants to do they want
to do Facebook groups and so forth, how many people
know how to do that easily? If you really get comfortable in
these areas then you can be very useful and much in demand. – Become a
practitioner, go figure? Actually have a skill.
Go figure. – And you keep learning once
you’re in here you’re learning and learning more so I don’t
have to call up Ahmed every minute to figure out why I can’t do this
or that and the other thing. And it kills me. If you’re comfortable with it,
you’re building a basis that’s going to be very attractive
whether it’s for-profit or not-for-profit and you can
really help people and that’s what, people who looking
to hire people who can help.

– [Voiceover] Jered asks,
“You mentioned “publicly documenting
one’s journey, “but isn’t advertising
inexperience hurtful “when seeking paying clients?” – Confused, one more time. – [India] So like, you probably
document your journey– – I said the other day,
in DailyVee it would’ve been cool
to see Vera Wang or it would’ve been
cool to see me starting Wine Library, right? – [India] Exactly,
but isn’t that hurtful if you’re trying to
seek clients who want to pay you because
you have experience? Like say you were in advertising and you don’t
have experience like– – Yes, Jered, you should not
be paid for faking the funk. You should not be
a 20-year old life coach telling people how
to live their lives because you’re
just starting yours. You should not be paid
as an advertising expert if you’re not
an advertising expert. I mean, unless I’m wrong
here, and I don’t think I am, it seems like Jered is
talking about the classic, Fake It Till You Make It, which
so many people get away with and you’re more
than welcome, Jered, if that’s what you’re saying. Maybe, maybe you’re not. But I’m gonna use
it as an opportunity to talk to everybody right now. Yes, I think that
telling the truth exposes the things you
want to lie about. Yes I do. (laughs) Yep.

“Gary, have you ever dropped the ball “on making a decision
due to over thinking it?” – Chris I would say that my… I almost need her to repeat
it, but I think I got it. Actually I sent it to her so I got it. I got it. The reason I sent it to India, was I say this Chris in the feed, is I’m actually normally making mistakes in the other direction. So I tend not to overthink
at all, I’m very intuitive, and most of my business mistakes have been to act too quickly
and then have to bail out. I have found that speed trumps everything, and so for me when I
weigh opportunity costs, I’d rather start something both money and time if
I intuitively feel it and then let it fail six
months or a year later. New concepts I have for
Vayner, new divisions, new types of wine’s for Wine Library, things I’ve done for my own brand and I wanna push so many of you for this I really wanna push a lot of you. So many of you are not taking action because you overthink it, you
overthink it, you overthink it I always say deploy your resources that you can afford to lose. A lot of you don’t have the dollars, I used to not have the dollars, but I had my time. The reason I punted at my twenties is because I didn’t have money, or I didn’t have a lot of it. You know a lot of you hear about the three
million dollar business, I love when people try to rag on me and say oh if everybody had a
three million dollar business I mean every single kid that gets 500,000 dollars in startup which was millions have more
dollar resources than I had. We didn’t have dollars, the business did three million dollars, it made 300,000 dollars in profit in selling three million
dollars worth of liqour and then it still had to pay expenses. My dad took home his salary, like we had no money. But I had my time, and I would test things, and I stayed up. I didn’t punt my twenties
for kicks and giggles, I pumped them because the only
resource I had was my time, and so I had to work 18 hours a day because that’s what I had. Got it? So taking action, especially
if it doesn’t cost you money and it’s just time is
always a better answer than pondering or thinking or trying to decide if this is gonna work, you don’t know. The learning of the failure is as equal to the victory of it. The thing’s I’ve learned in my 20 years, the reason I’m so advanced
as a business person in my own mind is not
only have I worked a lot, but this work hard work
smart thing I’ve worked smart and one of the smartest things I do as an entrepreneur and a business person is I do things so I can understand
whether they work or not. You can’t just sit here and say “Is this going to work or not?” Debate it your whole life, never do it, and then not know the answer. Like no. One of two great things happen, one you did it and it worked and you made money and you won and you got accolades and it worked Wine Library TV, it worked. The classes I was gonna do, I’m trying to think of things that failed another thing is that I
just forget them so quickly. I’ll work on this, you know India I wanna do top 11 things I did on Wine Library that didn’t work. Local van delivery,
at scale I never did. So one of two things happen, either it works and you make money the email service it worked, or it doesn’t and you’re like well I’m not gonna do that again. This whole indecisiveness
when you can do it, if you don’t have the
money you can’t do it so what the fuck are you
thinking about it for? “You know I wonder if I buy
a building in New York City will it go up in value? I wonder.” The answer is it’s gonna work, but guess what I don’t have
400 million dollars liqiud to buy the fucking Empire State Building, type of building because
you can’t even buy that for 400 million. This is an interesting question, the answer is no, I’ve never failed because
of indecisiveness. I’ve only failed because I’ve done stuff, but I’d argue that I didn’t
really fail I learned, I might have micro failed but I macro won. – [Voiceover] J Scot asks, “Gary do you expect your own
employees to work like you do?

“of his day to watch #AskGaryVee?” – No, I would not watch the show. I know I’ve lost viewers
because of this answer. I’ve watched that, it happen. I’ve actually been curious
’cause there’s been like 10 or 11 people emphatically
saying I’m not watching anymore ’cause you, I get it. And then I kinda like
follow, like I tag them and I kinda like follow-up
and I’m like oh crap, I really lost them. Which makes me happy and sad. Misha used to do that, my
daughter used to do that. She’s like I’m happy and sad and so that’s where that came from. And so, the answer is I wouldn’t because it’s not how I roll. But I also would’ve never
watched one episode. So I think that’s an important thing for the people listening and watching. The way I learn is different. The way I do things is different. And there’s no right or
wrong, as a matter of fact my biggest issue is that I
wish I had a little bit more of that in me. I wish that I would read a
book or two here and there or I wish I consumed people’s content that I was aligned with
or could learn from. It’s just, I’m just too
into the anthropology of just watching. I’m sitting at the
Knick’s game last night, tough double, tough overtime
loss to the Rockets, Michael Lang if you’re watching screw you. (Gary makes squeaking noise) I spent all my time watching
everybody on their phones. And by the way it was an Instagram, Snapchat only world from 16 to 46. New York crowd but super
fascinating so that’s how I learn. I learn by watching, I
learn by watching all of your behaviors in the
comments and then seeing what you do. I learn by all of you being so honest about telling me your truth, learned a lot about a lot of you individually. Helps me interact with you so
I’m on that side of the coin. So the answer is no, I
would not watch the show.