“on your goals, and separate yourself from “the demands of the external world?” – Andrzej, I’ll take this one first. You know, I don’t know what to tell you other than it’s unbelievable for me how much the external
world has not factored into my decision making,
I’ve talked about, if you’ve been watching
this show long enough that first F on a test in fourth grade and literally making that transition to I’m gonna fight the market, and I’ve been fighting
the market my whole life. I think for me, it was
the level of self esteem that my mom instilled
in me, plus some level of my own DNA, I think
that’s the friction at hand. Heck, a lot of the themes of
our last question were on this, right, like what does the
market want you to do, whether that’s your parents or society, versus what you want to do. For me, it has a lot to do
with intestinal fortitude. A Gorilla Monsoon WWF reference. You know, I think it’s
surrounding yourself with people that give you permission
to take that risk. That to me is the most practical version of what I’m giving you, other than you’ve got to be born with it. It’s finding those like minded people who are taking those similar risks, and give you, through their own actions, a little more umph, or
if you’re amazingly lucky to have that parental, or
mentor infrastructure above you that created that context. Case. – I think focus is everything. I think that you can do 10 things poorly, or one thing well, and saying, “No,” is something that I only
learned late in my career. – I still suck at it. I still suck at it right now. – Saying, “No,” is so
hard, but the truth is like we’re surrounded by leeches, blood suckers, and vampires,
and those are people that want to take, take, take,
and they don’t give back, and learning to say,
“No,” to those people, learning to say, “No,”
to all those distractions is the only way to get anywhere. Cause time is finite, life is short. Quickly you find things in life
that are really incredible, like family, things that you love, things that you’re passionate about that might distract you in a positive way from your career focus. So, you have to learn
to shed everything else. – I’m gonna throw a little
bit of a curve ball. I get so much happiness out
of doing things for people who would be, you know, categorized as the way you just broke it down because I have a weird gear inside of me that has zero expectation for the return on someone’s selfishness. I know that’s a little bit of a mouthful, but it’s just, it’s probably why I’m so ridiculously happy. I have such little
expectation for the return, it makes me happy to do the give, I sit in front of you
knowing I will accomplish less in my career, and amass less wealth, and a lot of other things,
less time with my family, which is my number one because
I get so much happiness out of some of those actions. So, I would tell you if you’re
in a rare group like myself, make sure you recognize,
in a world where people will tell you that you’re
a sucker for doing it, or things of that nature, you still got to make yourself happy,
but I will tell you, I’m way happier than I was five years ago because I have grown in
my no meter moving a ton. It hasn’t gone to zero,
and I think a lot of people close themselves out of serendipity by saying no too much, right,
and I think we’ve probably both benefited through
our years of the yes when it didn’t make sense on paper. But I’m with you man,
I mean I made a video a long time ago that, The Yes Virus. It’s like the sickness of just
saying, “Yes,” all the time, and it’s a tough one. – Yeah, I mean, I’ve made movies, I made a movie that’s Just Say Yes, like I believe in saying, “Yes,” I believe in embracing
risk, and embracing chance, and all the things that… – Do you think you need to say, “No,” more as you get older? – I just think it’s a learning curve, a very steep learning curve to understand when no is appropriate and
when yes is appropriate, and until you learn
that, you default to yes. – It’s a really, really, or no, my dad defaults to no. I think you and I, like
we have some similarities that makes, like I think
there’s a lot of people there that default to no, I think there’s a lot of people that default. My dad’s opening words are, “Hey dad.” “No.” Like I can’t, “I was gonna
say how was your day?” You know, like no is not a proper. Like, I know a lot of
people that default into no. I think we happen to be surrounded by a lot of people that default into yes. – Yeah, lucky us. – But I think, you know
it’ll be interesting, you know what actually, quick little side question of the day, give me are you a
default yes or no person? I’m just curious for my
own kind of like polling. India, move it along. – [Voiceover] CJ asks,
“How has having a family

“in a time machine, travel back to speak “to your 21 year old self,
and only have one minute, “what do you say?” – Z, I would tell that person
to hook up with more chicks, and not work as many hours. And I know that can be crass, and obviously, you know,
what that crass statement is really saying is have
a little more fun, right? You’re gonna accomplish your things. You’re gonna pull it off, you know. I appreciate that you do
have business patience, but you need to spend
a little bit more time with your friends. You can
go on one more vacation. You can go do a keg stand,
need to live a little bit because you’re gonna have a family, which is gonna be amazing. You’re gonna be busy as crap, and you’re gonna run out of this time, you’re only 21 once. – [Voiceover] Tiger
asks, “If your dad Sasha

“happiest in life?” – Tyler, I took this question
for a very specific reason because I think one of
the interesting things about the #AskGaryVee Show is this content and actual infrastructure has forced me to go deeper than I have in any other platform and it’s been interesting
to watch what a lot of you in the VaynerNation have
been responding well too, which is a little bit more
insight to my psychology and I think this question
gave me the opportunity to answer it, and I’m
going to really throw you for an interesting curve ball, and this is 100% the answer. I am the happiest in my life of all time right this second. It’s just the truth, and what I mean by that is, is this moment with these
characters, show them, you know, you know, do they know drock? Excuse me, do they know AlexDS? (mumbles) – A couple of episodes ago. (laughter) – [Voiceover] He’s a regular. – He’s been sick for a couple days, that’s why he looks terrible. (laughter) Is this moment with these characters the best moment? Of course not! Last night beating the
Cavilers going to Cleveland from Lebron’s homecoming and dominating and stunning the world was an amazing, by the way, Cleveland you’re
going to hate me for this. I’ve been giving Cleveland a lot of love, I was disappointed with the fans. This was Lebron, the
prodigal son coming home and it wasn’t enough. Like a random second round
Knicks home game energy in the Garden was better. I was very disappointed. I’m not dissing and I know Cleveland fans
are awesome and their tough. I respect Cleveland, it’s a tough town, not a lot of championships
for a long time. Was disappointed, I had
to throw that rub in there because that’s how I roll. Children being born. Jets beating the Patriots in New England in the second round of the playoffs after losing 45 to three
in a Monday night game just a couple weeks earlier. Way up there, probably my happiest moment, my wife and kids know, but if you ask me happiness, I’m a collector, I’m a momentum guy, I’m a chugger, and so, you know, everyday that goes by that good things keep happening and no death, and that’s how I look at it, is happening in my family or sickness, or terminal conclusions to anybody I care about, feels like the next best day. It feels like it’s always getting better. I don’t know if one day– Look, I’m going to be
very honest with you guys. In my deepest fear, because I’m positive I don’t talk about negativity, I’m deepest fear is that
eventually I become bitter. Right? That I pushed the long game too long and I didn’t capitalize
and I missed moments, but right now I still
think I’m on the climb, I don’t think I’m on the
other side of the hill and so, hopefully I always
have that psychology even to the last breath that I take, but to me, the happiest
moment is right now because everything is
collectively always getting better even when it’s not. You know, there’s always
going to be challenges. It still is. I just, that’s how I see it. – [Voiceover] Chase asks,
“How can you stand out

– [Voiceover] John asks,
when you’re in a funk, what do you do to get out of it? – John, you’ve asked a
question that I’ve been really excited to share with the world, because it works, it is very dark. Like, this is dark, so,
I know that most people when they share my content say, beware, potty mouth McGee. This one’s beware, you
may be like, frightened, with a little bit of like a teardrop on your left eye. Left. (thumping) I’m gonna tell you the truth, because that was the commitment
when I decided to do this, which, you know, obviously I’m able, well Steve’s curating the questions but I could always kibosh them, so, when I start doing these live,
or when we do live events, or we take this show on the road and it’s audience participation
then it’ll really be the full monty but for now, I’m answering them and I’m
answering them truthfully. This is a dark one, I’m
stalling ’cause it’s dark. It’s dark. When I’m in a funk, I
literally close my eyes, put myself into a place where, something remarkable happens to me. You know, CNN names me the greatest man of all time. You know, just literally
like silly things like, I get on a list of being
the best entrepreneurs, or, Birchbox sells for
four billion dollars and I make a lot of money, or, the full extreme, when
I’m in my most funk, I literally try, usually I
do things that are realistic, and happen within a one-year window. But in my deepest funks, I’ll project, this is harder, this is
a little more role play, ’cause when I think about stuff that’s gonna happen,
intimately, it feels real. But I’ll dream about buying the Jets. And I’ll think about those great things, and then I literally, I literally make pretend
that Birchbox sells, that I make millions
and millions of dollars, and that that’s the phone call, and the next phone call is
from my hysterical sister telling me that my mother
died in a car accident. And I really do that. And I really go there. And it very, like, I’m very, as you guys know me,
I’m an emotional character. I go there, and it really does
something interesting for me. I really don’t care that I
made seven million dollars, if my mom died. I just really don’t. And I can, even as I’m
telling you this right now, I can feel it, I can truly feel how little I care about that, in comparison to what I
would feel with that pain, and very honestly, it
just sets me straight. It just reminds me what my priorities are, and it allows me to
understand that the health of my children or my wife, I mean, the fear and the shivers
I get when I think about their passing, in, you know, in real live, like them dying. And it just sets me so straight. It just makes me realize, how non-important losing that client was, or that best employee, or that
deal, or that opportunity. Passing on Uber, in the first round, which would have given
me 100 million dollars. In paper, so they gotta go public. But it’s pretty damn in there. Is something I can deal with, because, the truth is, it’s just
not what makes me happy. And more importantly, I’m so happy that everybody I love has
been healthy for so long, losing grandparents early
has put me in that position, so a negative is a positive,
and that’s what I do. I go in a very strange cocoon, and make pretend that
people I love the most die. – Gary Vee,