“How can you claim family first, “but work 19 hours a day? “How can you be a good dad dash hubby, “and rarely be home?” – Yeah, so this is a great question, and I like the zing of
the hashtag at the end, what’s the name? – [India] His name is Ryan. – Ryan, let me explain
something to you, partner, and everybody else who asks
me about this question. This is a very legit question, and so I’m not angry or
looking to zing back, because you’re right. This has a lot to do with decisions that my wife and I have made about the way I storytell my life versus the way I
storytell my private life. You know, I look at things
in net gain form, right? For example, let’s just ask my phone, this is actually very convenient. Didn’t even think about this, because I didn’t really
know the questions today. Let’s just, let’s just zoom it in, DRock. Let’s just zoom in where
I was this morning, because I worked out at 6, right? You tell me when. And you may not be able to pull it off. You think you’re gonna
be able to pull it off? – [Voiceover] Can you hold it closer? – I can.
– [Voiceover] A little bit more.
– Yep. – [Voiceover] Yep, and, there we are.
– Good. So look. Look at this. Ha, ha, ha. I went to the kindergarten
play today, right? I went to the kindergarten play, as a matter of fact I was
there half an hour early to be first in line at the
kindergarten play this morning. And, you know, look, oh look, look at this stuff that I never share, and this one you’re gonna
have to blur out DRock, because this is the
point of the answer, but, here we go, let’s just see
the last couple of videos that we’re taken. Oh look, look at these videos. Look at these videos of,
you know, kids, singing. You know, kids singing. Yeah, kids. My friends, here’s what
this one comes down to, and I have enormous
amounts of empathy and self awareness to why
this question is asked all the time when I
talk about 19 hour days, and when I’m,
DRock and I and Staphon put out a
day in the life video, and it shows all this, and nobody wants to envy it, I’m playing in extremes. First and foremost, when there are important events like this, you know, the kind of things
that my dad never came to, because he set the foundation to it, I’m there, I’m at the play, I’m at the recital, and I’m at this, I’m there. On weekends, I am all in. All in my friends, all
in on weekends, right? I’m not playing four hours
of golf like a lot of you. I’m not doing a lot of other things that a lot of people are doing, I’m all in on the kids, right? Then, I’m taking, oh I don’t know, seven weeks of vacation, which is probably in the ballpark of four, five weeks more than you, right? More than you, which is high quality time, all in, every second, and so, yes, maybe I’m playing Monday through Friday, you know, 40 weeks a year, at an
intensity that’s different, but, I have found
my cadence, my rhythm, my balance with my
spouse and my children, predicated on playing it that way, and I’m finding a lot of
quality time with them in these extremes, and so, you know, I think, I never judge or ask or tell anybody how to raise their family or do their thing. The other thing I’ve decided is, unlike a lot of my contemporaries, and a lot of social media experts, who, I don’t think exploit their kids on social networks, but I
would say are intriguing about being so obsessed with
getting likes and hearts that they know that when
they use their cute kids, they get more, it’s kind of, I’ve been in many conversations, sitting right here at conferences, I’m right here, but I’m listening always, you know, because that’s how I roll, and I’m doing my thing, and I’ve heard many people talk about strategies around how, oh
put your kids and stuff, you’ll get more likes. I’m like, really? So, you know, I’ve chosen, my wife has chosen, we have chosen, to, you know, as you guys know, there
are very few pictures or any kind of public pictures
of my wife or my kids, it’s just what’s comfortable to us, so I’m very self aware about the rationale to
why people may question my ability to be a good dad or do my thing, the other part of this answer is, Misha and Xander are 3 and 6, this is the system, and they were 2 and 5 five seconds ago, and, (mouth noises) You know, as things evolve, as they’re in softball and soccer, and football, and this and that, you know, I’ll adjust, and my schedules will change, and you know, a big thing in 2016 I’ve been
giving a lot of thought to is coming home every day at 5pm for 30, 40 minutes to eat or bathe, and so I’ll adjust, and I’ll try, and I’ll hustle and I’ll work, and I’ll continue to always
struggle with work-life balance, given my happiness and my ambition, my selfishness around work, however, there are a lot
more things going on here than just the things you’re
making assumptions on, rightfully so, given the
content that I’m putting out, but that’s why even that video we talked about and ended with, and big ups to Alex on
our team to push this, which really made that video whole, which was that’s me, do you, and so, I feel super cozy about the time allocation, I would also argue, my friend, about quality, because
plenty of people work 9 to 5, come home, drink a beer, watch TV, play video games, and
spend, oh I don’t know, six seconds yelling at
their kids to do homework, and so, there’s quantity, which, you know, I like to think I’m maybe playing a good game on extremities, and then there’s also quality, like you know, actually
having a relationship, like actually having a conversation, actually spending quality time, actually looking them in the eye, actually, actually, actually, so, that’s my answer to
that question, friends. – [Voiceover] Euan asked,

“Who do you ask when you have
life or business questions?” – Jason, this is my
strength and my weakness, and so I want to set that up immediately. I ask absolutely nobody. It is insane, I think about this all the time, and I truly, and you know what, it’s funny, subconsciously
I said it’s my strength and my weakness, I guess
maybe that answer’s my 51/49 question of, is it a strength or a weakness? I do think about it a lot. I do wonder why I’m not
really mentored out, even with the most amazing
dad who’s in the business, you know, I was mentored, you know, and maybe this
is just the way I roll, maybe I’m being mentored by example. You know, I think my parents, my parents, you know, it’s funny, I’m gonna be a different parent I think, and sit down with my kids, and do my spiel, I mean I love doing this, imagine me as a dad, I’d be like, kid, when the wind blows, you know, I’m just gonna like you know, do shit like that. You know, like, I never really went that route, I watched my parents, and maybe I watch other people. And I, you know, Steve Ross, who’s my LP and investor partner now, one of the most successful businessmen of the last hundred years in the US. You know, I have full access to
him at a scary level, and I don’t hit him up for, like, what do you think? And this is a guy who
owns a football team, you know, 5 billion dollar man, and I never sit down and ask him, I’m like, let me tell you. It’s in me, again, it’s either a
strength or a weakness, but the true answer to the
question is absolutely nobody. I’m a big believer that people should see a psychiatrist, and
vent, and like do that, I don’t do that, even though
I believe in it tremendously, I don’t think I’m a hypocrite, because the truth is, it’s stunning, and by the way, if I ever go through a, if I ever went through a sustained 36 hour period
of being really upset, I would do it in a heartbeat, I would change my behavior, but I am so scared, and so blessed and so thankful, and so grateful for the perspective that
I have as a human being, which is, you just can’t
wrap your head, my friends, VaynerNation, you just
cannot wrap your head around the excitement that I would have in my body, if all the things on paper that seemed like my successes would disappear tomorrow. Obviously I want to take care of my family and put a roof over their heads, and those kinds of things. But you do not understand
my lack of taste for caviar like I just don’t give a shit. Like I love the game. You know why I love the
Jets and the Knicks? Because they don’t win. Do you understand? And so for me, the fear of
failure is not a fear at all, as a matter of fact I would argue that I have more a fear for success than I have fear for failure, and so, because of that, I don’t know, it puts me in a very happy place. I don’t look for advice,
because the truth is, I don’t want to screw anything up. I don’t want to speak to somebody to vent, because I don’t want to
screw anything up, like, I feel like the chemicals
are aligned right now, and I’m very happy. I’m super duper duper happy. – [India] Cool, that’s good.

what’s the best thing that’s
happened to you this week? – Oh, Good News Shared, that’s a good one. What’s the best thing that’s
happened to me this week? First of all, thank you so much, second of all, love the concept
of this Twitter account. Good News Shared, like
just share good news? Like, what’s the best thing
that happened to you this week? That’s a nice concept, I’m into that. The best thing that
happened to me this week, if you consider Sunday
the beginning of the week, I guess you should,
’cause it’s officially, I think that’s the way it actually is. Is it? – [Voiceover] Yes. It is right? I’ve forgotten this. Is that real life though? Sunday is the true, like, yeah, right? It’s not a normal– I would say the best thing
that happened to me this week was spending time with my kids being official, on Sunday, they really enjoy the outdoors, we went to, we’ve rented
a place for the summer and I have city kids, and
they’re starting to get older, and it was fun to watch them
kind of play in the yard, and really enjoy that experience and like spending real
quality time with them. It was, I had one of the– this is not a joke, I had
one of the best weekends of my life this last weekend, all predicated on family
time, it was fantastic. And that was the best part, just seeing, you know, my kids are, Misha turned six this week, Xander turns three later this summer. They’re starting to get to that fun age, it felt different, it felt different, it felt like, I think I saw a preview to
the next four or five years of fatherhood. That really excited me.

– What’s up? (mumbling) 1,700 on Meerkat. Hey, Meerkat. I love it. Cool. Let’s keep it going. Hey. – Chris Green from Massachussets – [Gary] Hey, Chris. Congradulations 100 episodes
of #AskGaryVee. – Thank you, man. Shout out to DRock for that hustle video one of the greatest
videos I have ever seen. – Let’s here it for DRock! (audience cheering) – You can talk about the hustle, you just said two questions ago you can make any company successful, I know you believe that, we all believe it but when you can do so
many different things when your hustle can turn
into so many different things with so many opportunities today 2015 how do you chose what to do and what’s your greatest opportunity ’cause to do what you are doing? – This is the part that I’m not great at. You know, many around me would argue that I’ve done a poor job in selecting opportunity cost because of the earlier question to the gal that pitched
all the stuff of you know, I’m playing such a long, my vulnerability and I think I said it on one
episode, but I am not sure. My vulnerability is that I was too patient and I left the prime years on the table by giving back too much by leveraging too much, by doing non scaleable things too much and so it’s something, you
know, I turn 40 in November and much like when I
turned 30 and freaked out at Wine Library, and
started Wine Library TV I think I’m forcing the narrative ’cause I think it’s convenient. But I’m definitely feeling weird. I’d be lying if I wasn’t. I have been spending a
ton of time on you know, I’m sure I don’t really recall this, but I actually do recall it. I remember thinking
like all right 30 to 40 is going to be the years where I lay down the foundation
to buy the New York Jets. All right, and so, you know, I’ve definitely been
like, you know 40 to 50, like this is it, right? And I’m sure when I get to 50,
I’m like this is really it. You know, but, I’ll be honest with you I’m not sure that I am the
best guy for this answer because the truth is I
like non-scaleable things I love doing stuff like this. Like you understand at some level and I think people will
eventually figure this out about me, and I think a lot of people here probably do recognize it. I disproportionally like
people which will then probably ultimately not allow me to
maybe squeeze out every dollar but I’m still going to
be much happier for it. Like this show, like I’m
going to watch this show. Wait, hold on, let me just talk to myself. You look terrible. (audience laughing) – That was me talking
to my 90-year-old self. Like these things, it’s funny
when I come across somebody tweeting out like an episode of Wine Library TV from like
2006, like I do a ton of stuff that on black and white don’t look like the smart opportunity cost
play, but they are the things that make me happy as a human being and just hustling for the cash so that we’re buying the Jets is only one part
of the equation for me and so I think from a business sense I leave a lot on the table from a life sense, I’m happy
with my allocation of my time. I’m happy that I get together
with former employees that I love so much, even
though everybody around me will say “We need those 15 minutes “for these 700 other things
that need to happen.” I don’t care. And so, I think that you know,
I think the way I judge it is how it feels in my
stomach and my heart. Not my brain. (audience applauding)

called Brick Fest Live. We run live Lego events that attract tens of thousands of people. – Fucking love that
– [Chad] (mumbling) – Yeah, that’s cool. So, our mission is inspire,
educate, and entertain you have the next
generation of lego builders because, you know, ’cause that’s the – Cause it’s a big fuckin’ industry. – Yeah, and it wires your
brain to problem solve. – No question.
– which is what we’re all doing. – Yeah.
– [Chad] Right. My question is actually more about what you do with this show and the people that you have
around you to support it how much of their time is spent on you as opposed to other things. – All their time is spent on me. – Okay. – The entire team that’s mixed in is all a part of brand
Gary team, all of it. So, some of them have
worked at VaynerMedia within VaynerMedia before
and we plucked Steve you know, India, you know Alex plucked out of the machine on to the team and others have been, you
know, cold hired just for it Zak, Andrew, DRock, Staphon for it. – That’s awesome. ‘Cause we started actually
on a YouTube channel – Yep. – Where, you know, all
the production was us. – Yes. And that’s how Wine Library TV
was, but with this I have so much more
scale and as you can tell what I’m doing is I’m
producing so much more content off the show for Medium
and all the distributions so, and I’m learning through these guys as they are actually now doing it. DRock’s right over here,
Andrew is Meerkating, India is taking photo’s. What I am learning is what does a production company look
like for a human being? – Right, what does it look like? – Which I think Fuckin’ rad, you know, and I think that there’s
you gotta understand there’s, you know, as well as I am doing there are a whole lot
more successful people, wealthier like they are
that top 3% of celebrity that are way grossly over
paying their PR people, their managers, their
boy from around the way that they are taking care
of like all that stuff that I think creates really
interesting business model of the future because I do believe, and you know this every single
person is media company, I believe that cold. And so, not only am I producing, not only my giving back to a
community that’s been in place and growing but I’m getting
to learn the infrastructure of how I would scale this if
I wanted to do it for LeBron. – Awesome. Thanks bro!
– [Gary] Cool.

– Oh, hi, how you doing, Gary? – I’m from Edison, New
Jersey, your hometown. – I love that, what’s your name, bro? – My name is Alex Romero. – I love it.
– [Alex] I’m an app developer. I’m currently working
on an app called Haptap which is for happy hours. – Okay. – But the big question I have for you is more related to billboard marketing. Are you behind the Tom hashtag Tom Shady? You’re a fuckin’ genius. – I wish I could take credit for that Tom Brady hazing
billboard, but I’m not. But thank you so much for
bringing up that question so that we were able to
talk about it here today. I want the loudest claps for that, man, except for the two Patriot fans here. (audience cheering)

– What’s up Gary? It’s been a minute. Listen, I wanna talk about being selfish. How do you best make
decisions in your own interest even though they might negatively
affect people around you. That’s family, business,
personal, friends, anything. Let me know. – You know how long I’ve known this kid? – How long? – I think there may be a video of him actually being on Wine Library TV. – Really? – Like, eight, nine years ago. Okay, play it again. Jackson. – [Voiceover] It’s been a minute. Listen, I wanna talk about being selfish. How do you best make
decisions in your own interest even though they might negatively
affect people around you. That’s family, business,
personal, friends, anything. – Great question. Great, great, great, great,
great question, Jackson. There’s an interesting
part of your question. I truly truly don’t think that when I’m being selfish, it’s coming at the
detriment of somebody else. And so that’s how I handle it. I think I’m always
selfish and never selfish. Like, it’s just, I’m living. I’m living. The way I justify it a lot of times is I feel like when I’m in
my most selfish place it’s that I’m doing
something that optically looks selfish for me in the short term but is actually gonna positively affect the people in the long term and that I’m making a decision and I think I’m right
in a five year window versus a five month window and that history will allow that person to feel that it was palpable when they rekindle their thoughts around it, even though it might
sting or not feel as great in the short term.

“How did you meet Willie Morris, “and what attracted you to Faithbox? – Frank, you know, Willie, Faithbox, I’m an early
early angel investor. True angel investor in
both Birchbox and Barkbox and believe in the box of
the month business model. Especially when you lay
your media on top of it, which those companies have done well. I really wanted to be in that space and really thought of like, where’s the biggest open space? What’s a big business to
be in in the box space? And, you know, religion is a big business. And so, I thought that was fascinating. It was in the back of my mind. It was brainstorming. Phil Toronto, who is a
principal at Vayner/RSE was aware of Willie through maybe a girlfriend’s girlfriend, friend. He was leaving Amazon, coming to New York, I take a lot of serendipitous meetings. We sat down. We hit it off. I thought he had the right make up. He had great hair. And we made the move. That’s about it. It wasn’t super complicated. I had an idea. Got to know him a little bit. There was some correlations on passion around that subject matter. It clicked. And away we go. And he’s really kicking it in right now. Faithbox is really looking on the up. I’m really excited about
that company right now.

“to sacrifice your ethics
for a business win?” – Thomas, this is a great question. As you know, it’s because
of the #AskGaryVee Show and how busy I’ve been, I
haven’t been answering a lot of the #AskGaryVee, if any,
of the #AskGaryVee questions as they come through my Twitter feed. But I answered that one pretty damn quick. India, give me the call on
how fast I responded to that, in minutes or days. – [India] Looks like less than… – Less than a couple minutes, good. And the answer was a big, fat no. And by the way, I’m gonna break this down into an interesting place. So it’s not only no because
I wanna live a noble life and be a good dude and
like ethics matter to me, and my legacy. I think everybody who
knows me, knows my legacy. I’m obsessed with my legacy. Over the currency. So that would be that factor. But it’s also because I actually think it’s practically the right thing. I’m a big fan, right of the slower-hedged money. I feel like I make more money
if I don’t grasp at the money that’s in front of me and so
one of the biggest reasons I won’t break my ethics is,
if I do break my ethics, the people that I’m building
around me would see that. You know, my assistants
see everything that I do. They’ve complete ac– Steve, you access to my inbox?
– [Steve] I do. – Steve has full access to my inbox. If he sees, you know, it’s
hard to do anything now not documented. If I do something that breaks… At this point he as a good
sense of what my morals are and how I roll. He would, if he saw me do something, even if it didn’t have
anything to do with his world or the stuff that we do together, that breaks that compass, he would then have to question everything that I’ve established with
him as a moral compass. Which would then lose
the trust that we have. Which would then slow us down in all the speed that I value the most. It’s speed. The fact that this whole team here, and this whole collective team here and you as a team here don’t have to, once you get to know me. Once I can get over that hump. Don’t have to then question anything from a moral or emotional standpoint, it adds to the speed of everything. That’s what a great culture is. It’s speed. You’re not spending the 15
minutes a day bickering. You’re not spending the four hours a day wondering if that person’s
trying to ruin you. You’re not doing those things
which then lets you go fast. And fast, fast, my friends
is the oxygen of winning the big, fast, important game. See it’s even a game called fast. You have to be fast. (laughs) So for me, it’s really
important that everything breaks the second I make that kind of decision. And there’s just not enough money. I mean, I guess there’s enough money, everybody has a price. (inhales deeply) A trillion? (laughs) A trillion would feel– and you know what’s even funny? It’s funny, even if Zach came
out of my mouth, I don’t know, I don’t know, I’m gonna end up, I’m gonna end up leaving a
lot of money on the table in my life because that’s
not the way I score myself. I score myself on number
amount of people– The matrix of the number amount of people that come to my funeral
and the business success that I was able to create. I’d be lying if was just about everybody showing up to my funeral but then I was like, didn’t
win in this game that I played, scored in business growth,
dollars, all the things, the game But a hefty push to that funeral number. Again, recently,
unfortunately in a tech space we had a beloved character pass away of CEO of Survey Monkey
that a lot of people knew. A lot of my friends knew him really well. I didn’t really know him
well but it was interesting how I was affected by it
just watching the outpouring of what kind of a mensch, what kind of a great human being he was. I’d be lying if I didn’t say,
“Wow, that’s a little bit of a preview of what I
want at scale as well.” And so, you know it’s funny, I literally said a trillion and I’m taking it back. I just can’t go there. It’s just not the way I want
people talking about me. – [India] That’s it.

?Do you ever have dreams at
night about your business?” – Dr. Laurie (laughs). I think I’ve had too– I mean, I dream about
business all the time. Even though I go to sleep and I’m like, okay dream about Jets Superbowl
and in like two seconds I’m like in a meeting
with Stunwin, you know. (laughs) Not as much as I am. (laughs) I dream about business all the time. And then I dream about all sorts of stuff but I don’t recall most of my dreams. I’m not sure what percentage
of dreams I can recall. What percentage of your dreams do you think you recall, Steve? – 25% maybe, not a lot. – [Gary] India? – More like 5%. – [Gary] Staphon? – [Voiceover] 2 1/2% percent (laughs) – [Gary] DRock? – [Voiceover] Same, two. – By the way, I think all
four numbers are grossly high. I think if you net, net the game out, I bet you it’s like .00 something. If you think about how many dreams you probably have in a night. Oh, I bet you there’s– Google it up somebody, real quick. I bet you the number’s insane. And then if you think about
how many nights you sleep, you know, all of them. I think you’re gonna be far,
far, far pressed to get to 25%. – [DRock] About a hundred, you know a hundred something dreams. – What’s your first Google result? – [India] Some people dream at least four to six times per night. – Great. – All right, so maybe a little– (laughs) – Concept. – [Steve] I can be dreamer, that’s fine. – He’s a dreamer, folks. – [Voiceover] Fwarg asks,
“How can the communications