“of all time?” – John, my favorite swear
word of all time is dickface. There’s something about
dickface that really, really, you know, I don’t know why, but
like, I think when I use it, people just really, like,
actually, I’ve never really even thought about the
word until just right now and I mean, it’s pretty self explanatory. – [India] I thought you
were gonna say dickface.

“characteristic that you’d like
to pass down to Misha and” “Xander, and what’s the
number one characteristic you” “hope they don’t get from you?” – Great question. The number one characteristic
I want my children to get from me, boy there’s
a lot, because I think I’m really fucking awesome, so
if they can be a complete replication that’d be great, sorry Lizzy. I’m just kidding, I’m kidding. Let’s go with first thoughts. The first two thoughts that came to were and this may seem interesting
to you, depends on how well you know me, number
one, the first thing that I thought of, it’s sad that
this was first over the second one, but maybe that’s an insight
that I need to deal with. The first one is competitiveness, you know, it makes me sad, because I know it’s
less noble than a lot, the other one is humility,
which I know, for so many of you, especially if this like
the sixth episode you watched, or first, you think it’s
completely ego, but I’m telling you, like I know how
much my humility is the engine of my success,
and I have plenty of ego, it’s me pulling in those
opposite directions, but my competitive nature
has been a very, very positive impact on my
life in a lot of ways. It’s just I associate that with myself. I think my kids, no matter
what they do, and I don’t mean competitive to like make
money, competitive to write the best song of all time, competitive
to raise the most money for this disease of all time,
I think being competitive is a very, very lucky attribute,
and I think that my family and me specifically, take it too far. It can be very unhealthy at
times, it causes friction, but I would never give
it up, I just wouldn’t. I think it’s just too damn important. It gets me through so much. It gets me through so much. I want them to be kind, I like being kind. I think kind is incredibly important. I think the one thing that
I think that a, that a, you know it’s funny, I really
do think I’m a paradox, I have ying and yangs
to all my own feelings, I’m trying to think about what
I don’t like about myself. (laughing) God, I love myself. What don’t I want them to have? – This is hard, by the way,
you ever want to stump me, try to have me talk
negative about my own self. (laughing) Look, I think there’s a
ton of things I do wrong. I think at times I wish I
was a little more selfish. At times I wish, I, man my parents did a really good job. I would say the number one
thing that I don’t want them to take from me, is I
think that I could have done a much better job in my early
years on work/life balance. The only resemblance of a
regret I have is the first five to six years of
my marriage with Lizzy, I think that I left 2 weeks
of real quality together time per year on the table, and
those are twelve weeks that I can never get back and
that I really wish I had, and luckily I am way
young enough to more than make up for those 12 weeks,
and so I will, and so I think that would probably be it. I mean, at the end of the
day, I just, as you can tell, my brain as a computer
is not very capable of looking at too
many of the negatives. – [India] I had a negative
question here before, but

“you get asked all the time
that you can’t stand answering?” – What’s one question I
get asked all the time that I don’t, that I
can’t stand answering? Which one is that Dad? The Valdez? Great Pinot, right? – And I’m not, you know? – I know you’re not a big Pinot guy. Alright DRock, over here. This is not a wine show. – I think I’m going to finish it. – You can finish it. – I don’t know if there’s
any question that bothers me that people– – He’s so chill. (laughter) Nothing, nothing, you know. Really, doesn’t take it personally, uh. – [Andy] What’s a question
you always get asked– – You know, Dad, I’m gonna take
advantage of having you here you know, obviously we’re the
same but we’re very different. – But you’ve got a lot of me. – Yes, I know. – The better– – The competitive thing. – Yeah. – But, were you interested in the fact that I’m so unphased? You, listen, there’s a
lot of people watching. Tell the truth, you get upset. – Eh, about? – A lot of things. (laughter) – Uh, yes of course. I’m human, I have yeah. – But, you agree, in
business I’m kind of weird. I go into this weird state where I’m not– – He’s different and he’s very different. No no no, I have to hand it to him not because he’s sitting here, and I really want to give
him compliments, you know, while he’s here. – Guys, just so you know, I’m fishing here because I don’t get this so I’m
using advantage of the show. – But he’s very different here. He made a statement, and I
can’t even repeat the statement, because, to me it’s against my religion– – (laughs) I don’t even know. – He will do business with– – Anybody. Hitler? – You know it rubs me the wrong way, but it’s true, its been proven fact. And I’m a principled guy. – I’m a principled guy! – You are, but, you put
what’s good for the business before your own– – My own feelings. – Yeah, and I can’t, and
I’m exactly reversed. You know, I’m, I don’t know. And probably that’s
what was holding me back listen, I’m not complaining,
I did pretty okay– – Yes you did, mister. – With no language, no, you know. – 100 bucks, poor. – Yeah, I can write a book and my book would be better than his,
but that’s beside the point. (laughter) He’s making a face. – Because it wouldn’t be better. That’s why I’m making a face. Let’s play one on one. Show the basket. We’re gonna play one
on one to settle this. – Listen, we just had my
younger son get married. – AJ, they know AJ. – Everybody knows him. And you would not believe what
took place at the wedding. Gary gave a speech, I gave a speech. My daughter jumped in, and it became– – We’re a very competitive family. – Yeah, it’s healthy. – Slightly unhealthy, but
I’m pumped we’re unhealthy. – What do you mean unhealthy? – Well, we’re very– – End of the day– – We love each other. – Even in the business, never left upset. – What, within a year? (laughter) We never left upset in a day? – We kiss each other– – Well we love each other, yeah. So, I don’t remember the question. But I think ultimately,
Andy, there’s no question that really bothers me. I think most people know the
answer to most of the questions that they ask me, I just don’t think they
want to put in the work. And one thing that, I will say this. I think one of the best
days of my life, my life,

do you practice to keep focused?” – Raymond, that’s a good question. Daily rituals to keep focused. You know, now that I’m a year and two days into my physical regimen, that is what you would think is one of the things I do, but I don’t. I do not find that my working out has done anything for me
mentally, I really don’t. I don’t feel any different mentally today than I did a year ago. I don’t sleep better. The only thing that’s happened is I just look way better, and you know, that’s that. I’m sure there’s plenty of other, I’ll probably live a lot longer, that’s that thing. I feel much stronger, by the way. Traveling is where I’m really feeling it, just little silly things
like grabbing my suitcase. I think I only have one ritual which is in parallel to the way I live my life. Even right now, as I’m
talking to you guys, there’s a little part of my
brain that’s always moving. It’s just like think of
it as a hamster wheel, and it’s always just reminding
myself to keep things in perspective. I think my daily ritual. How was the question phrased again India? – [India] It was phrased daily
rituals to keep you focused. – To keep my focused, I think the one thing
that keeps me focused is the perspective of
understanding how lucky I am, how good life really is, how
the things I complain about are not that big of a deal
in the scheme of things, how at moment’s notice I can get a text right now while filming this show and have the tragedy of my life
happen, and every second that doesn’t happen,
how thankful I should be for that, because those
are real scenarios. These are things that
you and so many of us deal with on a daily basis. Now that I have a 530 person company, HR sends me an email inevitably every week to two weeks of very scary things, like people’s families having
tragedies of death or people being diagnosed with illness. Just real stuff, real stuff. I am stunningly capable
outside of New York Jets football to understand
in check, in emotion, how 99% of things don’t matter. My daily ritual is
actually my ritual that I keep at an every second basis. It’s my moment, every second ritual of keeping myself in check to recognizing what is
important versus what’s not. Sure I get frustrated and
concerned and worried, but it never has a sustained level of a feeling, because I just put things in perspective so well and I’m so thankful for that gear. I really wish I knew how to teach it. I think the only thing I try to do is put it out to you guys. I’m hoping that somebodys like geez, that seems like hope you’re looking at
me or listening to me right now and saying, gee that sounds fun. You’re right, it is. I’m a very outrageously, stunningly, over the top happy person,
because of this gear. It is very difficult
for me to have sustained unhappiness because of this vehicle, and it also allows me, and
I really do believe this, allows me to affect the people around me whether they’re consuming
me on a daily basis or they work with me, to actually level themselves. Stunwin, as someone who I find
very cynical and different than me, straight up, no
bullshit, because I don’t care and you know that. Don’t bullshit me. Do you feel that this, how long have we been
jamming together now? 18 months, where are we at now? – A little over two years now. – Sorry, in these two years, do you feel that the answer, I don’t know how much you were listening, you
seem like you were working which is a nice change of pace. – Thank you, thank you Gary. – Stunwin, do you feel,
no bullshit, no bullshit, do you feel that you’ve moved at any level to be more optimistic, bigger perspective, happier? – Absolutely. – Talk about it. I know it, because I can see it from afar. I’m pumped to hear that, but I’m curious how you quantify it. How much? Or how or what, or talk? – I would say that the thing that you all, you say that resonated with
me the most is the whole you’re 100% in control
of your situation and don’t bitch about it. – You’ve changed in that way. – Yeah, in a big way, absolutely. – Yeah, you’re right. I think about you three years
ago, you complained more. – I complained a lot. – Yeah, no really. And you feel more in control. – 100% yeah if I have a problem, everything is fixable as opposed to – And talk to me as somebody whose, when did you start watching Wine Library TV? – 2007 I think. – The difference of being this, so you said, I listened very carefully. I’m a good listener. The thing you said that resonated with me you followed me for a long time. How long have you been at VaynerMedia? – Three years this month. – For almost a full year,
you weren’t as inner circle with me. Was it watching the execution
of that non-complaining that triggered it, or was
it just momentum or what? I’m trying to figure out what I wanna do for them
is what’s the difference between what they are experiencing which is what you
experienced, which is you’re listening to it versus
clearly being able to see it in real life. You see all the, you’re in my inbox, you know the insanity that I – I know what it is. It’s that you encourage
people to take control of the situation, and what
happens is the first time somebody actually acts on that and says, I have a
problem with this person and instead of bitching
and complaining about it, they actually take control
of the situation and they say, hey this is a problem. How do we fix it? People are afraid to do that. They think it’s gonna backfire. They think, I’m not allowed
to give that person feedback, or I’m not allowed to
act on this, because it’s not my job, or I’m not
senior enough or whatever, and the first time you do
it, and it doesn’t backfire, and it actually works, because you asked for what you wanted, it’s like oh shit, that’s actually really empowering. – And let me teach you about scale. That’s awesome, in that what I know and I’m gonna give you
a little love here is going from that what he just said which is complaining and
not doing anything about it, to the next step which
is doing something about it, but what Steve has
done, unlike others. I’m super pumped they’re just doing it. What Steve has done that I’ve noticed is not only that, then empowering others to do the same, and that my friends is scale. That my friends is how
you go from a small base to a big base when you are so religious and you suffocate all the wrong, and you try to teach, and you have people that level up to it, so that saves you time, but then some break through and actually teach it as well, and help me scale it and know much of a religion it is. That’s when you start really scaling it, and that’s who the hell knows how we got to this point. I don’t even remember the question, the daily ritual. That’s my ritual, and not only is it my ritual it’s my religion, it’s my passion, and it is probably fundamentally
why I do this damn show, because I’m so desperate for you guys to do the same, because
it’s just way better.

“Doesn’t he see the value while “he writes books himself?” – Niels, I don’t read books,
because of a couple things. One, I’m very inefficient at reading so it takes me a long, long time, and the truth is I don’t
think I actually grasp what I read. As a matter of fact,
something very interesting has happened over the
last six to eight months here at VaynerMedia. When I see that something
comes in my inbox that’s a very important piece of business, and it’s a very long email,
AKA more than 18 words, I call a five minute meeting,
because in five minutes, and my staff will tell you. You won’t see the body language here, but I’m saying it for them it’s insane. In a meeting, I basically don’t even let people finish saying what they’re saying, because I’ve grasped it,
but if they sent me that same comment in four sentences I literally wouldn’t even
know what was going on. I don’t read, because I
don’t think it’s an efficient transaction of transforming information into my brain, I really don’t. Audio books is something I need to take very seriously, but the truth is I don’t read because the way I like to consume
information is living it. I know that sounds weird, but it’s just the truth. I really do think the reason that I’ve been able to be an anomaly is I know that that’s
probably not the norm. Most people do read books, like as a matter of fact, it’s crazy that the internet came along, because if the internet hadn’t come along, I wouldn’t have written
or read in my life. I was well on my way, if I was I’m sure there’s some 50 to 80 year olds who are watching the show right now, or listening to the show who are like me who realize, holy crap. They really didn’t write or read from 24 to 45, pre-internet stuff. I write books, because I know so many people do read. I know so many people do learn from highlighting the shit out of the books. I don’t, and so you can’t be religious or romantic about these things. Just cause I write them doesn’t mean I need to read them, and vice versa. The reason I don’t do it is ’cause I don’t find value in it for me, and I
highly recommend a lot of you start really auditing yourself
and understanding, are you doing stuff that actually
doesn’t bring any value to you just because that’s what society and the world and you have always done because the answer is yes.

or what’s gonna come out of my mouth. – I’m excited, I love improv. – Shoot, oh my gosh. What was either your first or your most embarrassing screen name? – Oh!
– [Group] (laughs) One of my AOL chat names
way back in the day was GeeNutz with a Z. – (laughs) – G-E-E N-U-T-Z. – (laughs) – That one is a good one. That is your answer Allison. Not bad for an improvisation. Good job, awesome.
– Yeah it’s great. Let’s clap that up.
– [Group] (applause)

Nice to meet you Vayner Nation. (laughs) – What is your question Molly? – My question is I read an article in the New York Times recently. – Is that a newspaper? – It is a newspaper, but my
Mom sent it to me on Facebook. – Amazing. – So, it was called ‘No
Time To Be Nice At Work’ and it was all about how
the workplace is becoming a hostile environment now
because people aren’t civil to one another because of a
bunch of external factors. They’re focused on a bunch
of other different things. – Like what? – So people aren’t nice to each other because the pressure of day-to-day tasks, they’re thinking about something else when they’re in a
conversation with somebody. – OK. – How do you find– – What was the point of the article, like what was it trying to say? – It was trying to say that there’s always time to kind of like take a deep breath and say
hi, how are you, to somebody, which I think you do a really good job of. – Okay. – So how do you find the time to focus? We’re having a conversation right now, this is a great example,
but how do you find the time to focus, be nice to
people, stay in the moment, that kind of thing? – How do I personally? – Yes, you personally. – You know I don’t think I
really have any other gear. I truly believe like DNA and the way you were brought up is real. I truly look around this room and there’s different levels
of being a nice person in this room, it’s just real. It’s just a real thing, right? For me, it’s super easy. So here’s what I would say,
I think that one thing I like to say a lot is money and
micro-fame or real fame doesn’t change a person,
it just exposes a person. So the amount of people
that write me emails or see me in the street like,
“wow you’re…”, they’ll like send a tweet after they take
a selfie with me in the street and they’re like, “Wow, Gary
Vee’s a really nice guy!” Like, you actually get credit
for being a nice person the more exposure you get. Which I think is silly. Which I think is kind of
just a weird kind of dynamic. So, I think that falls in the
same realm as your question which is, you know, I
don’t think external things in the world, like 24/7 world, I don’t think anything’s really changed. I don’t think Gertrude is nicer or meaner because it’s 2013 and
not 1955 anymore, right? I really don’t think that, I
just think Gertrude’s a (beep) and like decided not to be nice just like she wouldn’t have
been nice 30 years ago. And so, for me, I don’t
even know any other Gary. As a matter of fact, I’m
probably a little bit weird the other way, which
is I’m so uncomfortable with negativity and angst,
things of that nature, that I attack it in reverse. A lot of my day is taken up trying to make sure that’s
contained and not happening. So, it’s just my default. I think there’s a lot of value in it. I’m stunned how many people undervalue a head-nod or a “hey”. For me, because as you guys
know I’m running around so much, so much of my stuff is like
a wink or a smile or a, it’s just I don’t have the
time, but it’s so nice. I think people really
value effort, and intent. And I think you can get away with doing so much of that stuff, with
such little stuff, right? And so, for me it’s easy
because my parents had sex at the right moment to give me my DNA. – [Kim] (applause) – Thank you, Kim. And,
– (laughter) and my Mom really parented me in a way to really value other people and all that kind of stuff. And so, I just haven’t
known any different. I love that I get like extra
credit for it now-a-days because a couple people
follow me on social media. But, for me there’s, ya know, and more importantly, and I
think you know this, and I think a lot of you know this and
some of you don’t know this, but it’s what’s more interesting
to me is I believe in it so much the level of which
I’m forcing it down below me, not just leading by example
but being pretty upfront with senior leadership of
how much it matters to me is I think helps our company. – For sure. – Cool.
– It does. – Thanks Mol. – [Group] (applause)

“before you do something big? “Anything at all? “It doesn’t even have
to be business related.” – Clinton, the only thing
thing that I’m scared of, really, in a public setting, or that might sound big. This is what the #AskGaryVee
Show is for, right? We gotta show the 360. This is probably gonna be one of the more vulnerable things that
I’ve said on the show. I’m setting it up, but you’re all gonna be like, “What?” I am actually scared of reading in public because I’m come to learn in the last three or four years, I am atrocious reader. I really struggle with it. As a matter of fact, one of the big shifts
in 2015 that I’ve made is I’m making a lot more five
and seven minute meetings with my staff because I
don’t read fast enough for the value of my time. Even when I read to
Misha, believe it or not, I’m like a quarter of an inch hesistant. Like, if I had to create
the greatest story off the top of my head, right now, for Misha, I feel cozy and calm. Reading Goodnight Moon,
I’m like (humming). I’m just a terrible reader. Like in Passover, reading
the things on the table. I don’t like to read. It’s funny, when I started getting asked to do TV shows, one of the reasons I didn’t want to do a TV show was I didn’t want to read off the chiron. And even when I did my wine web radio show on Sirius for nine months, my first commercial read was a disaster, probably the worst thing
I ever did publically. Guy came in, Sam Benrubi, big ups. Father of many of the
employees at VaynerMedia came in, he’s like, “Do
what Howard Stern does. “He can’t read either. “Just read it and then do your thing.” The second read was insanity ’cause I read it, I knew
what the Stella Artois, ironically a VaynerMedia client now, what that ad wanted to get off. And I did an incredible read. So I’m very improv. I know what I’m good at. I’m stunningly not scared of most things. I’m scared of snakes, somewhat of heights. I really am, ultimately, scared of dying. And weirdly enough, the first thing that came to mind was I really don’t wanna read in public. Badly. That is probably at the top of the list, believe it or not. And that’s kind of intriguing to me. It’s a funny kinda thing. That’s it? That’s it, huh?

– [Voiceover] Ginson asks, “Do you work “on your birthday?” (spitting) – Couple things, my man. Number one, I hate my birthday. My 40th birthday is coming November 14th of this year. That was a little bit of a specific drop, mainly ’cause I want
the entire VaynerNation to buy me a lotta gifts, Jets jerseys of random rare players are at the top of the things that I like, medium. I’ve worked on every birthday of my entire life, all of them. Literally, even some in my teenage years, ’cause they happened to fall weekends when my dad was draggin’
my ass to the store. But since I became a
full-time professional at 22, I’ve worked every birthday. I’ve given a talk. I gave a speech, the RE/MAX convention for Thank You Economy came out during my birthday. Like, gave a speech on my birthday. Yeah, absolutely, that was a silly question. 100% all in. You wanna do what you
love on your birthday. I’m lucky enough to
be doing what I love. – [Voiceover] Ben asks, “How do you handle

– [Voiceover] Mike wants to know, “Are you building an
eco-system or an ego-system?” – Michael, this is a
great, great question, and I think the answer is both. I think the true answer is both. I think that I’ve
created an infrastructure of free content and interaction and organization that has created an ecosystem. It’s super hard to argue. I mean, wait ’til “Crushed It” comes out, the book that follows the 400 people, which is 400 of the 4,000 people that read “Crush It”
and their lives changed. Go read the comments in the Facebook posts and in the Instagram
posts around this show of people literally, in the last 30 days, ’cause I’m reading them all, just talking about how, like, weird, watching 100 episodes of
this has changed their life. They make more money, like, real life stuff. So that’s an ecosystem. On the flip side, it’s very centraled around a human being, right? Me. And that’s an ego-system, so I think the answer is both, and I think that, you know, I think like anything in life, there’s a very fine line. I often use Oprah to
bunch of spammy gurus. She just walked the fine line of inspiration and motivation just right to create all-time great billionaireship and all-time great impact, whereas, gosh, if she just turned an inch in the other direction, and if you look at her early career, she
probably was in that lane, and I think when she was able to squeak it a little bit more to the left, it took her to the stratosphere. Look, I think I’m
walking a very fine line, and I think I’m walking it properly, and I think I believe that because I just clearly know myself best and know my motivations, and I think that if you were to intimately look under the hood of
my actions and career, you would see all the dollars
I’m leaving on the table, which I think usually tend to be the motivator that forces people to get on the wrong side of the road of this eco-ego system
that you talk about. And so I think the answer is both. I very much thrive off the attention, the pressure, the admiration, the trolling and hating. It’s all part of it, and I think I’m capable and
I have broad enough shoulders and puffy enough chests to be able to deal with it, and so the answer is both, and I think done right, done properly, by all standards of the seven-person jury, I think it’s the way to
pull off a great legacy, and that’s what I’m trying to do.