– Yes. – and if you can
give me, I don’t know, quick three–
– Yep. – things to help build
their self-confidence I’d appreciate it. – So, here’s, you know, I’m really trying to
figure out this answer. So let me give just a whole
diarrhea of the mouth of like the things that run
through my mind, okay? – [Alenna] Okay. Shoot. – The first
thing my mom did talk, I’ll talk about things my mom
and I’ll talk about some of the ways I interpret it now that
I have other things that I’ve looked at and thought
about and having my own kids. She over-exaggerated when I did very kind
and noble things. Like when I opened the
door for a woman at McDonald’s, I’ll never forget this in
North Brunswick when I opened a door for this woman when
I was like eight and was just being polite and
like she treated it as if I won the Nobel Peace Prize. So she went ballistic over
the top on me being kind and empathetic and respectful and so that was huge. The other thing she did was she
never did that though when it was an actual life thing. So like when my
baseball team lost, my baseball team lost. When I got D’s and F’s on my
report card even though she knew I was going to be successful,
she punished me. So she didn’t give out eighth
place trophies in a world where that would be the way
the world worked, right? – [Alenna] Right. – But she just genuinely made me
feel like I was unstoppable and like was capable of
anything that I wanted to do and she believed it and
because she believed it and she instilled it constantly. It was constant offense, right? And so I just think that you
need to look at your three kids, you need to audit them, you need
to figure out what their strong at and you need to make 98%
of the conversation around the things that they’re strong at.
– [Alenna] Awesome. – Instead of doing
what was almost most every other parent does which is
spend 85% on the 2% they’re not, spend 98% on what they are. – [Alenna] Love it.
Awesome. – Every parent worries
about some kid trying like, “You need to be
better at math, Sally.” No she doesn’t. Do you know what I mean?
She needs to be capable. You’d probably like your
kids to be able to count, right? – [Alenna] Right. – But they don’t need to
be a fucking geometry whiz. Especially if they gravitate
towards humming 28 hours a day. (DRock laughs) Do you know what I mean?
– [Alenna] Yes. Absolutely! – Do me a favor,
don’t listen to, the biggest thing
that hurts parents is they listen to other parents. They listen to other teachers. They listen to the market and those people
don’t know your kids. It’s you and your
kids against the world, do you understand?
– [Alenna] Right. – And too many parents think it’s the world
versus their kids. – [Alenna] Well said.
– Yeah. So that’s it audit them. Really try to figure them
out and don’t think of cliches of like they spend all
their time on the phone, good news,
the phones the future of the way everything
will work in life. – [Alenna] (laughs) Yeah. – Do you know what I mean?
– [Alenna] Absolutely. – But make them respect if
you’re going to give them that gift of tripling down on their
strengths and allowing them to flourish in the world, make
them respect the alternatives. They don’t have to
pander to it but they have to understand why it exists. Some kids need school structure. Some kids aren’t gonna
be whiz kid entrepreneurs. Some kids path is to become
a lawyer make $130,000 a year. Some kids, geez, some kids are
just gonna make $40,000 a year and work at Walmart and that’s
okay too but they need to get a high school
degree to get that job. Know your kid and make every one of your kids feel great about
what they’re gonna be. AJ felt great ’cause he was
the best student in the family. I felt great because I was the most entrepreneurial
and charismatic. My sister felt great because she
was absolutely the feistiness and had the strongest will. Make them feel
great about their thing, don’t make them feel bad that
they’re not the star athlete or the nerdiest or can make money. Just build self-esteem. – [Alenna] Yeah,
let them teach us. – 100%. But as long as
they understand, you know, checks and balances.
Got it? – [Alenna] Yep, got it.

mess up a friendship or– – Yep! – if you were
partners with someone– – Yep! – and how did you
deal with that, man? – Yep, so I’ve
had a lot of them. I was in business with my dad
and I knew that I wanted to do other things and that was insane
of the thought of leaving that. My friend Charles Pearson
was one of my best friends when I was running my business
and I had to fire him and he was one of
my best social friends. I had to fire him because he
wasn’t bringing it and he was doing things that were taking
advantage of our friendship and he didn’t think
I was a meritocracist. VaynerMedia currently
has a lot of family member. I had both my
brother-in-laws now involved. I have tons of AJ’s friends, all of them are
being treated differently. If you are unable to
treat business for business, your business will die. And so, that’s okay because some
times you may want to pick your friendship over that
business and that’s fine. But yes, I’ve been in a lot
of those situations and I think that, especially
with friendships, you’re gonna either create
cancer from the situation or you’re gonna fix the situation. You have to understand, if there’s
friction from your end, it’s already a lost situation. Either you’re gonna fire and
you’re gonna have to deal with that person or break up or
whatever you’re talking about and that person’s effected by
it or you’re gonna eat shit and it’s gonna turn into a cancer
cell internally in the business and yourself and eventually it’s
gonna reap it’s head and you’re gonna have an issue. Got it? So, you’ve already lost. You might as well get the bad
part over with quickly so that the business can
survive that loss. – [Sammy] That’s exactly
what I needed to hear, Gary.

Was it your team? – Next. Stop right there. My mom and dad. That’s who my who were. My mom was building my
self-esteem about me. I’ll never forget, I opened the
door for a woman in McDonald’s when I was like nine, my mom,
Andy, you don’t want to hang? – [Andy] I got to run.
– You got real work. – [Andy] I got to run.
– I got it. Real work, I’m excited. My mom made that out to be the greatest that a
human had ever done. She accentuated, she blew up,
she overemphasized great things, which made me a good person. And my dad, my dad instilled
unbelievable hard work ethic. My mom did as well. Word is bond. You know,
provided for our family. Came here with zero. I look up to him so much for
that struggle so my what was the struggles early on in my
childhood, my who was my parents, who are showing me
through their actions not only their words what to do. – Who was it that you worked

I’m a dad and I’m wondering
what’s one of the biggest life events or especially events that
you had to miss (child babbling) due to your commitment to
the work but how’d you (child babbling) and how
did you overcome? Thanks man. – You know, Ernest, first of
all, that what was remarkable and about as
adorable as it gets. Ernest, you know I haven’t
missed anything, I missed some you know school plays. I haven’t missed any, no birth,
I would never miss a birthday. There hasn’t been
a signature event. They’re seven and four. There hasn’t been, you
know, Xander’s bris. That would be insane to me to
miss anything of that nature. I guess we all have different
scale of what’s important. There’s dads out there who
would never in the world miss a baseball game of
their son, ever. I would. I just don’t think the fifth
game in a season for Xander if something that is remarkable for
me and Xander, my family’s life is coming that place. I wouldn’t miss Xander’s
fifth baseball game for a big meeting or a new client. Would I miss it for the
opportunity to close a $78 million deal for our family? Yes, I would.
I just would. And I know one would
say well that’s money. Yeah, but but would I miss
Xander’s championship game after he played baseball every day of
his life for nine years and it was his number one
passion in the world to close a $78 million deal? I don’t know, it’s closer. I wouldn’t say definitely not. I just don’t know,
I mean I don’t know. First of all, if Xander was 13,
Xander at 13 after watching all my business YouTube videos
might want me, I don’t know. Here’s what I would say,
Ernest and everybody else, first and foremost, I would
never judge anybody else’s parenting or process. I have the greatest
relationships in world with my parents and I a lot of things
that were done differently than others and I think we all have. But knock on wood, I think
there’s a far more interesting question maybe
5 to 7 years from now. So far, I’m rolling. There’s been nothing even
remotely intense that I can think of that I’ve missed. They’ve been micro little play
this, play that, you know, last day of school like
a teacher conference. Yeah, there’s been a couple
little things that are like kind of lightweight. They’re also very, very young
right now but so far nothing. I haven’t had to pick. Everything that I felt, I missed
a lot of business things that are solid business things that
I’ve missed because I wanted to be there for the first day
of school or you know the Tot Shabbat day that’s the one
time Xander gets to do that in little Temple Israel
school that he went to. There’s single little things like that but it’s
weighing things. It’s weighing things and I’m not
crippled by the current state of political correctness of how
you parent because news alert, my friends, it’s going to be
different in 15 years and it was different 15 years ago. Yeah, thank you. – Tot Shabbat?
– Tot Shabbat is cute.

– [Voiceover] Chris asks,
“How do you girls stay so “grounded in a fake world?” – In a fake world? – Why does the
world got to be fake? – The people I surround
myself with aren’t fake. – Yeah, same. – And who says you
guys are grounded? (laughter) – Exactly.
– We might be batshit crazy, you just don’t know. If I were to answer that
question I was also say family. We are family for each other
obviously we’re sisters and we’re very close with our family and
nothing happens that doesn’t slide by our our dad or our mom
and they keep us in check and we keep each other in check. – And also not feeling entitled. I think that’s something we
really surrounded by especially in the dance music realm
there so many DJs who have this entitled aura and you could
see it online and in person. – There’s so much subtext
what you’re saying right now. – There’s like this hierarchy of
what kind of value bring and why that’s more valuable than other
careers or other realms in art. I think that’s what, even the
first question when you’re saying what made you pop off.
– Yeah. – I’ve actually never
felt like we popped off. I never really felt
that we made it. I think the day I really feel
Krewella made it is when I’m going to lose that hunger and
I think we have to constantly remind ourselves to understand
our value and our worth and to acknowledge our achievements
as artist but not to let that hinder us from having that
hunger to work every day, to go to the studio every day, to say
yes to opportunities because the second you start
saying, “Oh no, I’m good.” – “We made it.”
– Exactly. – Or “I’m too good.”
– Yeah. – What do you think?
– For them? – Or about the game? Where do you think, while
I’ve got you for another second, where is the current state
of EDM in your guy’s opinion? Obviously it was a that space,
I don’t know, eight years ago, nine years ago most people
didn’t know about. I still think there’s a lot of people who
are watching who are 40, 50-year-old marketing dudes that
have no idea what this space is and they’re going to Google it.
But obviously when you start talking to a 35 and under demo in
America and obviously in Europe and other places it’s been huge,
everybody at this point already knows that it’s so
interesting to watch. It is really to me the thing
that is most followed hip hop as a new genre that
didn’t really exist before. I’m curious for you guys who
are much closer to it, where is it in it’s lifecycle? Just starting, hitting
an interesting time? It’s become dramatically more
mainstream than it was five, six years ago. What is your
point of view on it? – I think it has plateaued. I think it’s hit the climax–
– Okay. – I don’t think it’s
going anywhere, anytime soon. It just branched off in so
many different directions. There’s so many
different sub-genres. There’s new artist coming
through every day. Guys likes Skrillex and
Diplo are doing a great job of cosigning younger talent,
bringing them up through the system and there’s the
difference between it now and what it was 15 years ago was how
much corporate backing it gets. You see with the brands
you work with all the time and how badly they want to be
involved with these entities and the biggest throwers of
festivals in the world, these biggest entertainment companies
in the world have put so much money into making sure that
it’s going to stay where it is. Keep going with it.
– Ladies? – It’s hard for me to comment
on this because I do feel like we’ve never quite
belonged in the EDM world– – Okay. – and so it’s hard for me to
look at us as even still a part of it even though I know it’s
kinda one foot in the door, one out for us.
– Okay. – We’ve always tried to maintain
our own lane while still, again, keeping one foot
in the EDM world. – I understand. – I think that that’s probably a
good thing for us because like Jake said, I agree, I think it
has plateaued and we have this amazing opportunity to take
ourselves on a completely different lane and
pave our own way. – Do our own thing.
– Yeah, it’s cool. – I just think a lot of what
were talking about when you’re talking about depression with a
lot of young entrepreneurs– – Yes. – maybe feeling let down that
they can’t really achieve the success that they been hyped up
to achieve, what do you think our society being a more and more
fame obsessed society has to do with that especially
with social media? – Yeah, I think the whole 15
minutes of fame has become everybody is
famous to 15 people. You got an entire generation of
young teens right now that take 45 minutes and take a selfie
’cause they want to get the lighting right and post on
Instagram if it doesn’t get enough likes they
take it down right away. Peer pressure, I’ve never
been more obsessed with this. I have a seven and a
four-year-old, instilling self-esteem in to them is
everything because they’re going to need it really, really big.
– Yeah. – Because the market’s gonna push back on every
one of their flaws. Yeah, I think we’re living
through a really, really interesting time.
I really do. I think there a lot of
things happening at once. This is not a very simple issue
where it’s like social media. I think parents, I’m 40, parents
of my generation that grew up during great times, you know
we’re not our parents or our grandparents, great-grandparents
generation where they fought wars and the Depression
and things of that nature. We’ve had so much prosperity
that I think if you look at every empire that when things
are good for too long people become soft. And I think that’s
what’s happening. I think we’re soft. And I think, you know, coming from an immigrant
DNA, like you guys, it’s easier for me to see it. I just think we’re soft and
I think that and I think that I don’t want to add to it. As a very positive optimistic
rah-rah, crush it, anybody can do it guy I want to also at
least have the other part of the equation which is of course hard
work, of course talent and of course look there’s so much
going on in the world right now. I think we’re all sensitive to
a lot of different things that are happening. You never know when
prosperity can end. It ends in a blink. I’m thankful for
the way that it is. I do not think kids being stuck
in their cell phones all day is a bad thing. I don’t think
that’s a ruining them. I think technology is eating the
world and I think it’s going to be more of that. I think that when you guys first
started doing shows compared to now if you think about phone
usage at your shows when you guys are standing there, I’m
curious what you think about what’s going on down there
because that’s just their norm. – Mhmmm. – I love when people think, did
you guys see that picture of the 90-year-old woman that was in
the crowd when the Pope came and everybody took a photo she
didn’t and everybody made a big deal about that? You did. Did you see this?
– Yeah. – You did you see it?
You see it? So it’s a photo like six months
ago when the Pope came to the US I think that everybody made
a big deal about which is everybody taking a photo of it
she just standing, she’s like 90 and she just standing there and
everybody’s like she’s a hero and literally I take
a reverse view on it. I feel bad for her because she’s
old and she probably already forgot about that moment where
as everybody else recorded it. I know it’s a funny– – That’s age discrimination. – Of course it’s
age discrimination. I’m trying to make a zing
joke, I’m sure she remembers it. I have no idea who she is but
I think that change is tough. In the same way that, staying to
music, both hip hop and EDM, one foot in, one foot out both those
genres had nothing but haters in the beginning saying,
“That’s not real music.” – Mhmmm. – And I just don’t like when
people impose their thoughts. Just ’cause kids are
communicating this way doesn’t mean that
millennials are introverted. I love when all my old friends
and when I said old I mean 35-year-olds say these kids
can’t hold a real conversation because their having them here. Meanwhile these same kids spoke
to the same six people their entire childhood because
they didn’t have the outlet to different people,
different things. These kids are
much more worldly. They know a lot more and so
I don’t think anything is bad. I’m pretty much and
optimist that way. But I am worried about
depression because I do think way more scary to me than living
a public life and fame obsession is parents telling their kids
things that aren’t realistic. I do think that we have to train
our generation to deal with adversity and I don’t think
getting an eighth trophy, I do not if you come in fucking last
place that your team should be cheering and
celebrating and given trophies. They should be looked at like, “You guys
suck shit. You lost.” – Don’t you think that this–
– I do believe that’s healthy. – But the advice to the
entrepreneur to push through– – These guys are
going out of business. Do you understand
what’s going to happen? 99% of these– – So they move on
to the next one. – It’s not an
opportunity to get better? – Of course it is.
– Keep going. People out there, keep going. – Of course, keep going but if
you are not self-aware, if you kept rapping, my man,
you would not be as happy as you are today.
– Agreed. – So now go that tell them to keep going
when they’re delusional. – You’ll figure it out. – That was the moment.
That’s the bottom line. You understand? You guys keep
going, keep evolving– – Yes. – but blindly going that I’m
going to be Eminem isn’t gonna work. – But if you don’t do that,
you’ll never figure it out. If I hadn’t put all the time and
energy into that I wouldn’t have understood how to
market recording artist. – That’s a very different thing
then keep evolving and being self-aware and understanding
your strengths and weaknesses to create the next opportunity
versus what people normally hear when you hear keep going which
is if I just keep putting in more hours eventually
I’m gonna put out a song. (inaudible) You didn’t keep
putting out songs– – I did until something else
but if I hadn’t kept going, if I would’ve stopped those thousands
and thousands of times people told me I couldn’t do it. – But please understand in this
conversation when you look back at it you adjusted to a different
opportunity on those learnings. That’s not what people hear– – That’s keep going though. – by your definition but I’m
telling you right now that’s what would people hear. When people hear keep going they
think they’re going to break through on the thing, do you
know that everybody wants to be a famous singer, a famous
athlete and a famous actor and if that person keeps acting
instead of becoming a director which is maybe the skill set
they have they’re gonna lose. – I think what you’re saying
keep going but stay focused but be open to reinventing
yourself all along the way. – Be self-aware. It’s my favorite part of this. It’s what I jumped on earlier. If you actually know yourself
you can win so much more. Just this blind faith that
everybody’s entitled to this level of success is ludicrous. Because most people don’t want
to work hard enough, most people don’t have enough talent and the
math has proven that that’s not the case. The bottom of the 1%, the 1%
earners in America, the top 1% earners, the bottom of
that make $400,000 a year. If you go talk every 15 to
22-year-old, they don’t even conceive anything being
short of a millionaire, of making $1 million a year. But the data shows only 1% in our US society
make $400,000 or more and that makes
them one of the top 1%. We have not had the proper
conversation for every one of you guys, there are 50,000
groups that didn’t make it and it wasn’t because they
gave up one year too early. They just weren’t
talented enough. That’s what I believe.

daniela asks I’m an immigrant with an
entrepreneurial dream all my parents care about his college which I hate any advice that stuff um did you get pressure to be a good
student no I came from one of those famous words is expected that but I’m
right there was not even writing every so I I came from we’re going to work
even a conversation on it just wasn’t a conversation I I came from one of those
weird families where high expectations were always there but my parents were
not very good at being parents and so it was basically ignored so i kinda raised
myself but unconsciously yes ceilings no only child child yeah and I think
unconsciously I understood at a very young age that the adults were never
going to help me no one was coming to help me and so I
had to learn like the system as its presented to you is bullshit and the only gift they gave me about
being terrible parents is that I was never fold by the lies that the system
tells you like school right I learn about half the system you feel
like early on you made a decision that you weren’t
getting value from your parents and thus every grown up during your youth you looked in a cynical point of view
not just the grown-ups but the actual systems of the grown-ups all operating
represented whether it’s work or whether it’s corporations or school it’s not that everything is invalid it’s
just that the the face that they present is never the reality it’s so interesting I on the other hand had amazing parents right but came to that
same realization at a very young age that I mean those are interesting
different paths to get to that place so it’s really dictated my life where I was
like oh my god I’m not this and like I’ve got another cheese I was in fourth
grade for sure I’m i crack another nine years of eating
this ship what you got out early i’m like how do i how do I break this system
how I have to make it work for me yeah you decided to win within it I decided
to literally go on vacation because i realized i subconsciously I was never
going to be on vacation again you know it’s funny is i think if we’re
talking about unconscious uh I think I I realized I had no other support you a
great parent yard I have this other world like you going – I knew my healing
i need this right i just like with this system so that I have because I don’t
have anyone like the persisting daniela i’m going to give you very difficult
device I really think you need to have the most
honest and truthful conversation we’ve ever had with your parents and then
react to their reaction i think if you really i don’t know if you’ve ever gone
there all the way we’re like this is really ruining me like like not like hey
mom and dad I don’t like school it’s like I’m suffocating and truly believe
my life will not be as good as it could be if i go down this path watching your parents reaction to those
words for made them would be will give you a really good indication because
then you get to understand are your parents wired to really value you and
what you have what where you are and what’s in your
best interest from your point of view or do they really care about their point of
view and what their child’s success means to them I become very fascinated you might have
better in saying this i grew up in a way where I didn’t know like the fancy world
and select bumper stickers of colleges on cars like like parents telling kids
to take on college debt and better schools wait a minute that’s in their
interest cuz they get the color friends at university chicago is real fancy
maybe some punk tamesha and Xander went fairly I’m like holy crap that’s interesting well so i think it’s
fantastic advice let me just add one sort of your way to frame this so when
you go talk to your parents I think the way to frame it is not
here’s my argument because you’re never going to convince someone with a
compelling argument or very rarely what you want to do is start by asking them
questions do you care about me how much do you care what do you really
care about what matters the most to you man what they’re going to say is we care
about you being happy we care about you finding yourself about you what are
right now get them to commit to that and then say
all right if you really do care about me and you really do it does matter to you
that I’m this happy I’m going to tell you I don’t want to go
to school because it makes me very college makes me very happy and trying
these other things for a year to is going to be much happier it will you support me as i do something
at least four and you can even find its temporary give me a year to support me and if it
doesn’t work I’m happy to go back to call and support me mentally right like
the financial records that slowly but i’m not i know that emotional i know
that i want to i want to bring that up for people and i would say the other
thing like look like there’s casualties of war and your parents are not going to
be around for your casualties of what they think is in your better interest in
verses you i mean the gift that I was given that i really wish I could you
know stick into every goddamn person is the audacity and competence at a very
young age to just say this is the deal like like that independence is
incredible and like and that’s hard for a lot of people but like if you’re
asking me on this show it to me actions speak louder than words if you
publicly treated this and asked me and wanted me to answer you’re just looking for somebody to push
you over the finish line many of you are watching this and think it but would
never to be publicly and fear that your parents would see it you’re clearly this close and you need
somebody to not do i will indulge you I mean I really do think there are real
moments in time to say go fuck yourself mom and dad it’s real and it’s really nothing bad
cool and growing out from this is it like this is a crossroads and a lot of
people get forced to do it there are kids with massive debt because
they want to appease their parents and they lose they lose because they kick
their twenties and don’t take the risk reward things they should be doing to
just pay down the debt and then wake up 34 and they just finally aren’t men from
something that they decided at 17 because their parents question of a
hundred percent yeah in their pit now that I’ve got older and spending time
appearance in the appearance vested interest of vanity that’s the worst that let’s do one more
well because i’m going to go to the speaker parents I gotta go run to
misha’s school and hey sorry I missed

– [Voiceover] Ben asks, “Would
you consider adopting children?” – [India] That is
a real question. – That is a real question, Ben. I sent that you, India, because
of an something on my mind for a long period of time time. And Lizzie would tell you this
is something that I’ve brought up and I think she thinks
I’m joking at times and probably not as much. Somewhere around five or six
years ago I had a real kind of lightning feeling
that I should adopt. That I am exactly the
emotionally strong financially situated person that is
put on earth to adopt. And the truth is when
you’re in a relationship it’s a partnership and so I can’t
impose my will or my wants or my needs on Lizzie without being
completely aligned on it but I have wanted a top to adopt
the last five or six years. It’s something that is
in me and it’s something I think about a lot. I do. I’m fascinated by the
whole thing and I’m very undereducated. I know there’s a huge process. I’m undereducated on
how many kids need it. I’m sure there’s very big
difference in data of Eastern European or Asian kids,
American kids, poor families, minorities,
girls, boys. There’s so many enormously
complicated issues but for me I don’t know there’s something
just in my stomach that feels that I can help that I’m built
for it and it’s been something that’s been in my
mind for a long time. But before all the comments come
in and be like you should get Lizzie to do it.
This is such a personal thing. I know absolutely devastatingly
awful adoption stories. Personally. And so I’ve empathy
for spouses who one wants to and one doesn’t. I don’t think I don’t think I’m
the noble one or the good one. But no question the reason
I sent that to you is it is something that
I’ve wanted to do. And I’ve been curious about why. I think about it
quite a bit actually. Probably two or three times a
year I have a good think on it. It’s been an
interesting pillar for me. One of my best friends, my
best friend growing up, Robbie Turnick was adopted so I
think I’ve been around it and comfortable with
it for a long time. That’s it. Yeah. Have you ever thought about? – [India] Yeah. – But you’re in such a,
you’re not even married yet. You haven’t even
started your own family. You know. And I thought about it my 20s but it got interesting
as I got older. – I think it’s ’cause I know
a lot of adopted kids too. – [Gary] You do, yeah? Yeah, is that right? Staphon? – [Staphon] I haven’t
thought about it much. – You don’t think
about shit, huh? – [Staphon] I do
think about shit– – You’re just a
20-year-old dude. You think about
hooking up and basketball. – I learn from you.
(all laughing) – [India] BSU, BSU, BSU.
– Let’s do it. – [India] From Joshua.
– Joshua.

that’s high praise
coming from you? – My parents.
– Your parents? – My parents
worked their faces off. My mom never and have
a nanny, we didn’t have a babysitter ever. She had three kids. My mom did everything for us. She regrets raising, I’m not
even capable doing my laundry. I’m a slob. My mom picked up
everything after me. Things that she
liked to joke about. That’s what she wanted to do. She did all the
work, no vacations. We took no vacations. Guys I took three,
three vacations in my life. We worked all the time. My dad worked every minute. My parents it’s learned
behavior by watching them and probably my own DNA. I respect my parents’ work
ethic and I respect all the single moms and
single dads out there. You know life is complicated.
Been thinking a lot about as I’m starting to build momentum as
somebody who’s advice is being taken seriously that I’m trying
to be very careful because I’m starting feel a bigger
sense of responsibility. – Yeah. – I’m starting to get nervous
to be very frank with you. Here giving advice and
tomorrow somebody’s spouse is going to die. Die. I had a distant
relative it hurts very bad. He was diagnosed at 65 or
55 as you can tell distant. Trying just to remember. 65 with cancer and
was gone a month. Gone. Now that kid, I know the kid
met him a couple times. Met him at some family
functions his advice is different now than
it was yesterday. – It’s just perspective. – There’s just all these
different variables, right? Who I respect? My parents because
I know that truth. Who else do I respect? Millions of people who work
really hard to provide because life gave them a curveball. You can do everything right
and your wife and kids can go get killed tomorrow by a
truck falling over on them. – Yeah, yeah.
– And so what? You’re gonna go
hustle the next day? You’re going to grieve. You’re gonna
adjust so I don’t know. I respect anybody who’s
trying as hard as they can, trying to live the
best life they can, trying to do the right things but no question my work ethic
only comes from two people and I think you guys know this about
me I don’t have any role models. I don’t care Richard Branson and
Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg and Albert Einstein and
Bill Gates none of these people inspire me.
They just don’t. My parents do and then it
flipped into my responsibility to my friends that worked for
me, my brother worked with me, the DRock’s of the world and
most importantly what’s given me unbelievable scale
is the community. I get inspired by people
wanting to take selfies with me. I get inspired with two guys who
are working their butt off in Ireland who really
really wanted me on the show. Because it would be good for
them to use my name to get other guests and I like that. – [Both] Yeah, yeah.
– I like that. Or appreciated my work or
a percentage of both that. Do you know what I mean?
– 100% yeah. – There’s a lot of ways
to get motivated outside. I love that I motivate people
but I don’t think we need the big names at the top of the
heap to be the motivators. – Yeah, that’s we decided
as well with start ups. We’re going to look after every
startup that we can interview from somebody who’s
opened from five days ago rather than two or three years. – We got a guy at the end of
January who literally came into van and he had quit his
full-time job that day. – Yeah. – And you could see the look
on his face was fear– – Sure.
– but it was good. – There is good fear.
– And we could sense. – He knew what he wanted and
went out for it which is great. – That’s awesome.
– Great to see. – [DRock] Let’s do
one more question. – Just one more question
on that, if you owned

your dad that you were moving
with your own thing, how did that conversation go? – This is a good question. The truth is this is
probably stunning information for everybody. We never really
fully had the talk. We kinda had to talk three
years later believe it or not. – Really? – Really, which is contradiction
to so many things that I’ve said to so many of you. Communicate this that
and the other thing. It was kind of a weird
way that we got into it. Uh oh. – [Policeman] Two minutes. – [All] Ok. – Two minutes we’re fine. – Why don’t we stop
it here and move it? Let’s move it. Let’s move it.
We’re fine. – Yeah. Cool. Cool. – No reason to fight. – No, were going ghetto. Yeah, I like ghetto. – So is it on to me now? What did you just ask there? – No, I’ll finish it. I’ll finish it.
– Yeah, yeah, yeah. – So that was interesting. We innuendoed to it. My dad knew what was
going on but I was straddling both things.
The book came out, Crush It!, there was
a lot going on. My dad wanted to get more
involved in the business and there’s no such thing as
two cooks in the kitchen. If I give one to his
advice, even this. Are you the two guys? – Yeah, yeah, yeah. – It’s not easy.
– [Mark and Graham] No. – You guys are different dudes. You got different perspectives. You can be the best of friends,
best intentions, love each other, everything. VaynerMedia, I’m the CEO. AJ is a COO. I am one, he is two. I was one running Wine Library
but it was causing friction between my dad and I thought it
was an opportunity for me to try other things and an opportunity
for my dad to be a one again. With my management team Brandon,
Bobby, Justin, all those guys Brandt at the time. So it felt right and it worked. My dad was happier. My dad’s an old school guy. I over communicated with my
dad but some things like family dynamics are tough
but it was great. I don’t know what episode
that it is with my dad. – Sasha’s cool. – We’re the best. And we love each other. And we love each other a lot. Maybe we could have had an
official conversation, we didn’t.
That’s the truth. – Sometimes it’s
easier that way. – I don’t recommend it. It was far from my preference. It was learned behavior over a
15 year period of time of how we work together. It was right for our, that’s why
I’m so scared to give advice all the time. Every situation’s different. Work-life balance,
parenting, family business. I give you my stories so I tell
the truth here now people are like Gary over communicated
but there he didn’t. Trying to give the truth
but that’s what happened. – [Mark] We got another question
here as well what’s the best

“travel back in time to
meet your ancestors, “or forward to meet your future relatives?” – 100 thousand percent
go backwards and meet my ancestors. I’m also the by-product
of being unfortunate in a place where I didn’t get to know three of my four grandparents,
which is on the low end I think so that kind of stinks. I knew two great grandparents,
which was awesome, but they died very early on. Actually, my great grandmother died later. But great grandfather died when we first got here, although I was very close to, to this (mumbles). And so I would go
backwards because I’d love. The cool thing about, I meant they’re both cool, because the thing you look for, it’s all very selfish. You’re like, oh my god,
my great great great granddaughter is so similar
to me, and like does things. But for me, I don’t know,
I like the backwards. I’d like to see like my
grandfathers, to see what they’re like, see what I pulled from them. My great great great
grandfather and grandmother, I’d like see like, where
it came from for me. And so that’s what I would do. Cool. That was it?