“for someone who finds out
that they’re not cut out “to be an entrepreneur?” – Oh yeah, I get it
Malik ’cause you played, I’m just kidding. Being an entrepreneur
is not some great thing. It’s just as good as being anything. It’s just as good as being
a great, I mean listen as much as it’s amazing for
me that I inspire people to maybe build businesses
that then is a gateway drug to happiness in their
life, I’d be, I’d feel really compelled to be financially secure, have better work, life
balance and be a brain surgeon and save people’s lives on a daily basis. Like there’s a lot of things,
or like some of the things, do you know, you know maybe
not as financially rewarding but if you’re wired to be
a great guidance counselor. Impacting teenagers through
those really difficult, and being a guidance
counselor in a high school for real and if you’re not
mailing it in and full of shit and only wanna be there nine
to three and you’re out, if you really are in it. It just comes down,
you know it’s funny, so that would be cool to
be a guidance counselor which leads me to the point
that made me think of this which is if you’re really passionate. And I don’t use that
word as you guys know. I kinda stay away from that
’cause I think it’s kind of a bullshitty word, but if you’re
truly passionate and really into what you do and you
really give it your all. Like if you really do, whether
you do it for yourself or within an organization
that you believe in or within an organization
that you think will get you to the place you want to be one day. Which is really what I try to build here. Which is one of those two things right? It’s a place you want to be,
around me and that energy and that success and that
machine for the rest of your life or you feel like the
things you learn at Vayner over a two, six, 12, 19
year career lends itself to the things you want
to do in the future. If you’re lucky enough to be
in one of those scenarios, regardless of what you do, if you passionately get up in the morning. If you got up this morning
at six a.m. like I did and were fired up to go, of
course ’cause the Jets won, but fired up to go and your
to go was you’re gonna go in the office and from nine to
four you’re gonna clean teeth and work on cavities ’cause
you’re a badass, motherf- dentist that loves the teeth
game well then you’ve won. My advice is if you figured out
you weren’t an entrepreneur, well then you’re just like
one of those contestants on American Idol. That went there, you gave
an at-bat, good for you, kudos. You stood in front of Simon
and he said you f- stink and you’re like crap and then
you went home and it aired a couple months later and
everybody laughed at you and on Twitter they said you
stunk and you’re like alright maybe I’m you know weird
and maybe I can’t sing. Now what you need to do
is comma, move on and try to figure out what you can
do, what you are good at and more importantly what do you love? And then there’s the other big
semicolon, I don’t even know that’s definitely not the
proper grammar, but like there’s the other parallel thing. Which is you don’t give a
crap that you suck at singing. You can’t breathe and believe
that you can do anything else. You’re just gonna sing. Awesome, go get a job at a karaoke bar. Go, work at a music store
and just sit there all day and sing. There’s absolutely this remarkable balance of what makes you happy, what
makes you the most money. Some people are just blessed,
lucky or grind their way into it or were born with
the talent of like being able to do both. I would tell you that if
I could make enough money to make me happy because I
want it, because I like it. I like the game, it’s the
game of it more so than it but go, I’ve often thought
about fully retiring and just garage saleing. You know? But the problem is I just have
too much other ambition and other things I want to do and
it’s really not predicated on the money but like the
garage, I’m very close, I’m one DNA strand away from being a guy that makes $87,000 a year
garage saleing every day. And that’s cool and I have
so many friends and relatives that are rip crap happy that
tried to be entrepreneurs, failed just like I would fail to be a professional
hockey player or a singer, and have gone on to
massively happy, it’s just about being happy and so my
advice for an entrepreneur would be dust it off, be
like alright that’s not me, even though it’s a hot
thing to be right now, and let me go figure out
what I can do that is. To me the magic is what’s the
thing that you can do the best that you like the most? What’s that cross section? And then that’s a great place to be right? It may not be perfect,
you might not be like Kobe who loves playing, you
can see it in his face, loves playing basketball more
than breathing and happened to be phenomenal at it which
is why you become Kobe. There’s a reason there’s Kobe. There’s a reason there’s Madonna. There’s a reason that there
are these one-named people. Cher, you know, there’s a reason, let’s cut to the chase. Because they happen to have
at the inflection point, the passion and love and
desire and the talent for that thing and found that thing. Which is a whole nother category of things to be successful. I feel like I’ve had
that but I also recognize in so many not that exact thing or the upper-middle class version of it. The eight on a 10 point scale, the 7.2, the 9.1, the 5.4. That’s what you’re lookin’ for you know, that’s what you’re lookin’ for. And then there’s the balance
of risk and practicality. So many people are not
born with the risk gene of an entrepreneur. You’re just not willin’
to take the chance, it’s just too scary. I just don’t know the other way. It was too scary not to get F’s for me. I’ve always fought the system. I can’t conform to what
people think is right. It’s just not how I see the
world, it’s just not what I see. So, I think tripling down on you. If you found out you’re not entrepreneur, you probably weren’t
self-aware to begin with to realize that you weren’t
gonna win in that anyway. You’re probably just following
a narrative of what’s sexy or what’s attractive and you need to take a big boy, big girl
step back in your life and say okay let’s get really real with ourselves. What is the thing I’m best
at that I like the most and then triple down on that. Put yourself in that position. Quit your job or quit the failed startup and go start whittling
wood ’cause you might just be great at it and you can
sell the goddamn little statues in an amazing museum shop in Wyoming. Be happy as goddamn hell. Make a good buck. You’re one Instagram photo
away from somebody saying look how amazing this is. Now you’re the wood
whittlinger for the celebrities and like this is real,
you know but this is real. This is how shit goes down and it’s funny and I know it’s a funny thing. I’m glad I got you India but
what do you think happened with DJ’s? They just loved it so much
and so they made 500 bucks on the side at parties. DJ AM, I watch Doc U, and
then he became the one that did it for Madonna’s parties and then he got paid a million
dollars to be the DJ in residence in Vegas. Funny things happen when you
triple down on your strengths. A lotta times the world comes to you. A lotta times the world comes to you. It may not seem like you
can make, too many people are like I’m awesome
at this and I love this but it doesn’t make a lotta money. I hate that because that is
the place to go ’cause all of a sudden the world comes to you. 1979 I’m a great chef and I
love cooking more than life but I’m not gonna be a chef
because it only pays $50,000 at this restaurant and I’m the help. Yeah until that 22 year old then in 1995 is 37 and celebrity chefs are now a thing and she has her own show. I mean like, that’s what I think. Cool, that was fun,