16:47

make a fitness more of a priority for you, how did you choose the fitness professional that’s coaching you? – How’d I choose Mike? – [Brittany] Yes. – Look at this monster walking in. – What’s up, brother? – You are beating up everybody too much or something? – [Natalie] Hey. – How are you […]

make a fitness more
of a priority for you, how did you choose the fitness professional
that’s coaching you? – How’d I choose Mike?
– [Brittany] Yes. – Look at this
monster walking in. – What’s up, brother? – You are beating up
everybody too much or something? – [Natalie] Hey.
– How are you doing, love? – How are you?
– Hi. – What’s up brother?
– Mike. – Alright, let’s go. – You’re looking a little
bit smaller what’s going on? – Tiny guy. – I do like you
thinning out a little bit. – I like it too man. Summertime, you know
what I mean? – Yeah I get it. Mike why don’t tell everybody
real quick who you are, actually I’ll answer the question
so we can go right into the next question.
It’s very easy. A lot of things in life
are just relationship based. Two, three years ago or 3 1/2
years ago I tried to get my health going for real I put out
to social media thinking that’s what I was going to be
accountable to, the peer pressure.
Wanna get here, my man? Good to see again.
– How’s it going? You well?
– Yeah. I thought I was going to succumb
to the peer pressure of social media to hold me accountable so
I said I need to work out John Roman who we mentioned earlier
got his community to shout me out heavily I should be a guy. Great I picked him that was my
relationship, Mike was his intern that was the relationship so
I picked my person based on relationships. Mike and I actually worked out
together unsuccessfully before we got into this for five or
six months where I worked out four times, eight times in four
months and canceled 19 times on his way to
my gym because I hadn’t made
the mental shift. So to answer the
question on relationship. Mike why don’t you tell the
Vayner Nation that didn’t see

9:26

“I’m coming to New York for a month “in the fall purely to network. “Where would you go to network “if you were New York novice?” – Do you know what I did with this guy? I retweeted this and said VaynerNation help this dude out. – [India] Oh really. – Yeah. – [India] It […]

“I’m coming to
New York for a month “in the fall purely to network. “Where would you go to network “if you were New York novice?” – Do you know what
I did with this guy? I retweeted this and said VaynerNation
help this dude out. – [India] Oh really. – Yeah. – [India] It didn’t even
show up on the thing. – No? – No. – Interesting, weird. It doesn’t even say
that you did it. – Let me just make sure it’s him or it’s not somebody else. Yeah I did this. – That’s so weird. – Why wouldn’t you know that? – I don’t know. – That’s funny because he would
have normally known that. – I thought it was. – Because I retweeted him. Maybe that’s why? – Wouldn’t it show up in retweets then? – Yeah but it’s weird. Well David. You know. I think that. I think that you know. You can do it a lot of ways and the way you’re doing is probably the right
way which is when you reach out to somebody
in the market like I did I actually
want to do something funny and say hey. Pass it on. And some people
reached out to you. And the other thing is you just you know use
your social graph and use information right there’s a lot of
places to network. I think Meetup.com is still an old school. web 2.0 site that you can find
some stuff out about. So that’s that’s a scoop. Nothing you know. I don’t have a really great. I don’t think
it’s a great question. – [India] Really? – I think you were you did the right
thing by asking me because I could’ve been
in the mood to answer it but in the way
my brain is today. I don’t you know. Use people, use information I mean
people are information now. You know. I’m interested in that. You know. Back to Yelp. I actually. Ha. See you did it again India. One of the reasons I was down
on anonymous review sites was I was like this social
media things going to happen. And I can just
go to Twitter search and put in restaurant or put in restaurant names. And use people’s opinions
that are doing it publicly. So I still think people
is a great way to go. And get down people rabbit holes
all day long right. You see somebody. You know you ask
somebody on Twitter, they retweet it like I did. Or somebody else
replies, people. I think another
cool thing is Tastemakers like the fifty best
chefs in New York. Or the fifty coffee
houses in New York that have Twitter accounts. So I think Google with Twitter’s interesting. Top fifty coffee shops
in New York City. Search, boom. You get a list. This is if you really
want to come to New York for a month and
network, right? Then you look at the list. And then you find
them on Twitter and then you ask them. Hey, Mort’s Coffee Shop, are you great
place for networking? You’re going to
get seven of them of the fifty that reply. Three of them going to
offer you free coffee and introduce you
to the owner like. Life is about grabbing it. If you go on the offense, funny things happen. You know if you take
the time to do what I just said tactically. That’s inevitable of those fifty on Twitter seven will reply
with free coffee. Three will do something cool. I like grabbing life. Yeah like you know
what I mean like. I really think so much of
this comes down to that. Like are you on the offense or are you on the defense? Right like oh I’ll just
go to New York and ask a couple of friends and go to one Trip Advisor
site you know what I mean. Or you can put in
the work in a world, this is why Twitter
is so special. It’s so special. Please do me a
favor VaynerNation. Tonight for an hour, an hour, it’s a lot of time tweet at 25 people that you’d love to have
a conversation with. And don’t go Mark Cuban and Daymond John’s and Zucks. Go with like the account for your four
favorite restaurants. In your local town. And just say, Sallows I love your stuff. I’m telling you right now. Come back to this thread
on Facebook and YouTube. I will show you enormous
things that happen because of it. People that eat
for free for weeks. People are going to
meet people for weeks. People are going to meet
a local entrepreneur who built a 37-year
restaurant chain that they may
learn something from. Everybody gets impractical with grabbing life. I’m going to get Mark Cuban. One of you out of a million are going to get
Mark Cuban for a coffee. But if you hit up your
favorite pet shop. India hit up your art
museums where you paint. You know like hit them up like. I really believe in that. I really do. Or like if you really
are into museums like go find a museum account. And then hit up. And Google this. It’s Google. But it’s like you know. Google the director
of the museum. They inevitably have
412 nerd followers. And then you hit them up and you’re pumped. But I’m here Saturday let’s have a conversation. Go to Napa. You can go. And like get a list
off of SFDaily.com or you can get that same list then go to Twitter
tweet at the winery and tweet at the owner and wine maker of the winery and have a totally different
experience for no cost except the hour of actually
putting in the work. The dude. The dude, and listen all
you are doing this and there’s some serendipity, but the dude that DM’d me today Alexander Waslewski from Poland. He took it at bat and by the way tons of you do. And a lot of times I
don’t do it all the time. It’s serendipity. But today. Alexander
Waslewski in Warsaw, Poland is getting a signed book
coming to his house. Just keep fucking swinging. You know what I mean the math is the math. Like just keep swinging. – [India] It’s true.
– I know. I live it. (inaudible)

3:18

and valuable work you know call it a great question and honestly that’s a work in progress always to me is really a real-life lesson in retail get his hand so so I think the ship the brain for retail this is something I’ve dealt with my whole life like you know i i don’t […]

and valuable work you know call it a great question and
honestly that’s a work in progress always to me is really a real-life
lesson in retail get his hand so so I think the ship the brain for retail this is something I’ve dealt with my
whole life like you know i i don’t think I’ve mastered it I don’t think that I am
doing busy work even now at the level let them that I’m still doing busy work
that i think is in hindsight not as good I think experience helps you I think
over time I’ve learned through oh crap I remember when I did that back in the day
don’t do that again you start understanding but I think one of the
biggest mistakes that entrepreneurs make especially as they grow their business
in the beginning with their crippled by the start of quality workforce is just
doing it you know like smart work versus just work he is when you start judging
it too much you start leaving yourself out of opportunity for serendipity and
upside the you can’t see there’s been a lot of things that on paper may look
like busy work going to get you know just kissing babies and shaking hands or
just replying to everybody on Twitter things that not everybody thinks is the
best skillful use of my time that has led to enormous upside because it wasn’t
obvious when you first it including a video shows including ten years ago in a
month sitting upstairs doing a video show
where everybody’s like we needed you that our to sell wine or to reorganize
our operations why are you putting a video on youtube twenties you to like
that it could end up being the biggest single biggest decision of my career up
to this point transitioning myself into a media
property in a brand from just being operated on this floor wasn’t obvious
that like it could have been busy work and there’s been other things that I’ve
done like that that have been busy work you know trying to think of a good
example but like a million things that we’ve stopped them started it didn’t
become real it happens with us every day in our team show so I think that I think
you don’t always know I think you find out after the fact that I think I have a
long forty to sixty year old old professional career that successful
as long as you’re learning in your 1379 12 patterns are becoming more self-aware
about yourself understanding your strengths and
weaknesses you start having less just busy work and more high-impact working
at the top of my career yes my question is if we wanted to start
a subscription box service should we buy

3:24

– [Voiceover] Liana asks, “You talk a lot about serendipity. “Was there one event that made you a believer “or a series of occurrences?” – Liana, there’s no one event. Liana, serendipity is life. It’s how things work. There was no singular event. This was so serendipitous. I’m such a big believer in serendipity now. […]

– [Voiceover] Liana asks, “You talk a lot about serendipity. “Was there one event
that made you a believer “or a series of occurrences?” – Liana, there’s no one event. Liana, serendipity is life. It’s how things work. There was no singular event. This was so serendipitous. I’m such a big believer
in serendipity now. Serendipity is just a structural aspect of the way our world works. Chance is an absolute part of it. It’s the way it is and so no there was no event. It was clearly a series of events. That all probably started happening when I was five or six years old when I started paying attention to things. So it’s more of a collective belief. I almost think of it as
like my belief in oxygen. Like it’s just there right. It’s just real. Serendipity is real India. Shit is real. (laughter) – What about your answer yesterday about timing and talent? Do you think timing has
something to do with serendipity? – I definitely believe in serendipity and luck. Right like I believe in those things like those are real things too. But I don’t think
everything is one thing or the other. I definitely think you
can prep for opportunity. I mean these are all semantics. I mean now were nitpicking like clearly doing the right thing and getting yourself in the right places and educating yourself and testing things and setting yourself up for victory, clearly those are real things but clearly other things factor into it, right? So I’m it’s just a
combination of like science and art. I always think about or just you know. The black and white and the gray. This is literally the
thesis of everything. And it’s funny it’s like you know tastes
great less feeling. People feel like they have been like pick a spot I mean. They’re both right. So for me the question becomes actually. If you’re lucky enough to self-awareness, could you bet on one or the other.
– [India] Mmhm. – The reason I love gray so much or talk about all the things I believe in is because it’s all comes natural to me it’s where my upside lies. I believe in like taking notes and studying and all that shit it’s just not for me. I wouldn’t have the maximum upside for it.

4:09

“how do I build a community on it? “Jab, jab, jab, and hopefully someone notices? “Cheers bro.” – Uh, cheers bro. I think the great thing about Medium and one of the reasons I invested in it, one of the reasons we write for it is you actually just have to put out good content […]

“how do I build a community on it? “Jab, jab, jab, and
hopefully someone notices? “Cheers bro.” – Uh, cheers bro. I think the great thing
about Medium and one of the reasons I invested in it,
one of the reasons we write for it is you actually just
have to put out good content because they’re doing two
things that are intriguing. One, there’s a viral loop. People sharing, recommending
it at the bottom. I was one of the early people
to growth hack a little bit and ask for the hit the
recommend which created virality. But they also use human editors
who just see a good piece of content and populate it to the email, to the top of the page. This is an incredible
opportunity, my friends. Medium, in a lot of ways,
has Reddit and Digg dynamics that we haven’t seen in a
long team where you could be anybody, you don’t have to
just ooze the juice of your social networks to get people
there, but you could be anybody who writes a good,
solid piece of content and then the machine, not
the community, humans, can decide to populate it and
then give you an opportunity to then siphon. The really Holy Grail for a lot of you, and the reason I’m pushing
so many of you in the Vayner Nation to write on it is you
can write a nice piece of content, get lucky, but
probably not lucky ’cause it was a good piece of content, but a
little serendipity along with that good piece of content
and now you’re populated. You get, you know, a couple
hundred, a couple thousand, people follow you off of the
base of that being featured and away you go, you start building. And so, that’s for
people with no audience. For all of you that are lucky
enough to have some Facebook, some Twitter, some Instagram
followers and users, you should put out content
there and use that as an opportunity to be discovered. And so, you know, I’ve used
Facebook very successfully to drive people towards Medium. Email services to drive
people towards Medium. Which then gets people
reading and recommending which creates more virality, which
gets more people to recognize me and it just becomes this viral loop. So it’s not about jab,
jab, jab, right hooking, where that’s a world of put
out content and then ask for something. This is more about just putting
out good content and letting the chips fall where they may. I think the other thing you
can do is go out to other people that have audiences or
other publications that may, then, want to re-publish your publication, but has a link that says,
“This was originally written “in Medium,” and that links. And so, you’re trying to
create a viral loop because the recommend at the bottom
of Medium creates virality within Medium, there’s a big
audience there and that’s where your opportunity lies. Very tactical off the
gate on a Monday morning.

7:04

you meet a co-founder of a start-up. What can I, or, that person do? – Oh, this is a hypothetical question. – To convince you to meet their team. For five minutes. A minute. – Well, you, that, I would be more than happy to do for you. In general, it’s just a little bit […]

you meet a co-founder of a start-up. What can I, or, that person do? – Oh, this is a hypothetical question. – To convince you to meet their team. For five minutes. A minute. – Well, you, that, I would be
more than happy to do for you. In general, it’s just a
little bit of serendipity. I get asked all the time,
I get pounded all the time, like, living my life, like,
going to school functions with my wife, or parties, or
just living life right now, I am fully in, I get pitched mode. Right, which is, for me, super flattering. I’m humbled that I’ve hit a status where that’s what people want from me, and so, my money or my time, or
attention, or points of view, all of it is still
humbling and interesting. So, you know, for you, that’s a done deal we’ll schedule that. For everybody else who’s
watching, they’ve all tried. I’ve got, there’s people
who are watching right now who have emailed me 90
times, who have hit me up on social media 90
times, and who will never get that at bat. It’s literally just the
serendipity of it all. There’s other people on their first email, or their first tweet, or
their first, you know, thing, get that at bat. I have so much volume
that I have no real way to truly have a system. My Vayner/RSE has a structure
where you can definitely go through that process and
can eventually get to me, but you gotta go through
the Phils, and the Shauns, and the Kevins, and the
Ryans, and the Chloes. So, you know, that’s
it, that’s the answer. I think one of the really
smart, strategic ways, hypothetically, is to
actually get an internship at VaynerMedia, put… – Slowly. – Put in good work. Finagle your way into
the #AskGaryVee Show, where, on the spot, in
front of the VaynerNation, you can ask the question,
which then compels me to actually do it. That would be something
that I would consider. – That sounds like a very smart person. I think you should meet them. I’m just kidding. – Hit up Matt, let’s do it.

1:38

“and ask for work experience?” – Wait– – Ask for an internship? – You ask for work? Don’t you just ask for work? – [India] I guess because a lot people come to companies and it says like you need this many years of experience. – Oh, I see. – [Gary] I see. – [India] […]

“and ask for work experience?” – Wait–
– Ask for an internship? – You ask for work?
Don’t you just ask for work? – [India] I guess because a lot people come to companies and it says like you need this many years of experience. – Oh, I see.
– [Gary] I see. – [India] But how do
you get that experience if nobody wants to hire
you because everybody– – When you’re 18. – [India] Yeah. – I got an answer to this, I mean I think that we now live in a world– Casey, how many people, how many people hit you
up on Twitter, email, other platforms, comments and YouTube, you must have a gadrillion. How many times have you in your career– When would you say that
you started really building into a place where people
were really pinging you? Is this now a two, three,
four year phenomenon for you? – For work? – Yes. Not for work, more like
people that are fans of you, clearly at this point. – It’s been a long time. – How long, do you think? – I mean, I think since the
first video I made went viral over 10 years ago. – Got it. So, it’s been pretty
consistent since then? – Yeah.
– Good, how many times have you
randomly done stuff? Yes, met someone, got on a phone. How many times? – Now, if I could count that, Gary. More than I could ever keep track of. – That’s your answer. Who was the question?
– [India] Lucy. – Lucy that’s your answer. I also– The majority of this entire team is based on random shit. Like so, I think you just ask
as many times as possible. There are unlimited companies
in a world you can get to almost anybody because of Twitter, again, a true social network. More so than comments on content which a lot of other platforms are. Email, at this point, I
think has been played out. It’s harder to get to
people through email. But that will still work too. I think it’s stunning that you can get to most people in the world today. I don’t think people, as many people are as wired as you and I. I think people have drawn the line to no but there’s plenty. We’re not the only two nice guys believing in serendipity. There are tens of thousands
wildly accomplished CEOs, co-founders, that
will absolutely hire you on spec from one
request to get experience whether they give you an internship or pay you minimum wage
or even give you a salary. It is a wide open field. It’s about asking. – Yeah, I mean, I would
even complement what, everything Gary just said,
I’d complement that, Lucy by saying, you also have an
opportunity via these myriad social outlets and the
internet as a whole. Not just to reach out and contact people but to actually prove yourself. Like, if you need to show this experience that these people are seeking after, just do it. You don’t need someone’s
permission to do that. If you wanna work in
construction, build something. If you wanna work in
an automotive factory, work on cars. If you wanna be a filmmaker, make videos. You now have these multitude
of options in front of you to show that you’re capable. If you wanna be a writer, write something. – You know what happens
in that environment? If you actually have it, not everybody has it. But if you actually have it, you start getting into
a place very quickly that you realize, oh wait, I don’t need to have a job
in the first place. (laughs) – That’s right, no longer do you need the
runway to prove your worth on. You don’t need someone else’s approval, you just do it yourself. Scary and very hard to do, it’s not to be underestimated
just how challenging that is but it doesn’t mean that
the opportunity isn’t there and that opportunity wasn’t
there 10, 15 years ago. But it’s uniquely there now. – We’re byproducts of that game. – My entire career is
product of that game. – I had a liquor store
in New Jersey and got 300 dollar camera at Best Buy and decided to make wine videos because I wanted to be like Emeril. – Wine videos.
– Wine videos. India, let’s move it.

39:42

Yes, sir. Founder of Aspire. Aspire is a productivity community for millennials. We’re trying to get millennials, Generation Z to be more productive– – Love it. – So, I know that you work, 16, 17, 18 hours a day. 19 hours depending on who says they work more you work more. – [Gary] That’s right. […]

Yes, sir. Founder of Aspire. Aspire is a productivity
community for millennials. We’re trying to get
millennials, Generation Z to be more productive– – Love it. – So, I know that you work,
16, 17, 18 hours a day. 19 hours depending on
who says they work more you work more.
– [Gary] That’s right. – So, – 25 hours a day bitches, – So, my question is
especially for my audience how are you that productive? How do you do this every single day? – Well, I think we have
to define productive cause it’s interesting to
Garrett’s question, right? Like, you mean how am I actually physically executing that many I would argue that I am not
so outrageously productive. – So, I guess the first question–
– You know what I mean? Let’s break it down. – I guess the first
question would be what is your definition of productivity? Is it hustle? Cause every time I think
about productivity, I just think about
– [Gary] I think results. – You know, like when I
think about productivity I think about results, and then I think about short term results
and long term results. Like, I feel like the #AskGaryVee Show was a productive venture because I am very humbled right now that all of you came here today and it makes me super duper happy, right? I can also think it’s productive
because multiple companies have now paid me instead of
going publically speaking because I can’t make every event they’ve actually paid
me for a custom version of the #AskGaryVee Show. So, that was productive, I get
paid a lot of money for that. That seems pretty cool, I like that. I also think it’s productive
because my next book that comes out in February is
going to be called #AskGaryVee and the whole thematic
around it is that so that’s going to be productive so there’s a lot of
different ways. It depends on how one defines productivity number one. To me, it’s the output, and
so you guys heard insight into another thing, right? This seven person team
is giving me a blueprint that I’m pushing against
to try to figure out a bigger business model. I mean, look, my marketing
activity, for Wine Library was productive because I
grew my family business to a big business. It also became the output of my learnings that became the foundation
of my “personal brand” which became the beacon
to building the fastest growing social digital agency ever. Right, like so, like I’m always I’m doing things that people feel are not scaleable in the moment that I find to be very scaleable if you are willing to look at them in five to 10 year window. Got it?
– [Mina] Yeah. – Was it productive for
me to take that meeting with Chris Dessy when he randomly e-mailed me and said “Hey, will you take this meeting?” And I said sure, which
then lead to a 15 minute I’m just going to pay
forward to this kid moment which I love to do because you never know. Well, this time I didn’t
know because it lead to he being one of the early
employees at BuddyMedia. Which was a company Mika Lazzaro had and I will tell you that
lead to free office space for VaynerMedia when we started it. In the ocnference room at BuddyMedia it also lead to me giving a quote to Mike Lazzaro for BuddyMedia where he gave me warrents to his company which later sold for a billion
dollars to Salesforce, so I made seven figures
on a quote to a website so I called that productive
for that 15 minute meeting. But, it also lead to a friendship that has become the core
friendships for Lizzie and I and this Saturday night
I got to spend time with a very small group for
his oldest son’s bar mitzvah and the speech that the son gave and the speech that Mike gave is something that’s engraved in my heart for the rest of my life, I’d call that productive, but then there’s a
billion 15 minute meetings that I take where the kids a piece of shit and nothing good happened. So when you play it in a net net game I think the people are over
thinking their at bats. Right? And I think intent matters, I think people are trying
to be too technically sound they are not allowing for serendipity. and serendipity is where
all the magic is my friends. All of it. (audience applauding)

6:32

– Hey Gary, Jason Hanson here in the beautiful San Francisco Bay Area, I’m heading off to a networking event and thought I’d ask you, what is Gary Vee’s game networking? What do you do? Love to hear from you. Thanks. – Jason, I think networking is super important to me at this point, you […]

– Hey Gary, Jason Hanson here in the beautiful San Francisco Bay Area, I’m heading off to a networking event and thought I’d ask you,
what is Gary Vee’s game networking? What do you do? Love to hear from you. Thanks. – Jason, I think networking
is super important to me at this point, you know,
there’s two different levels of networking for me. Number one, I’m in an environment where I’m known, right? Through last decade I’ve
built up some brand equity and there’s a very different strategy of walking into a room
where there’s context around me, I’m in a wine space, social media space, marketing space, I’m gonna be able to play that way a little bit different. In that world I’m kind
of, I’m receiving, right? I’m letting things come to me. This is the opportunity for
a lot of people to pitch me, I wanna give them value, and so in those environments where I have context and brand and leverage,
I actually give back. I actually just set up shop and
I get pitched for days, bro. On the other side, when
I go to many places where nobody knows who I
am, I’m on the offense to not overthink it. So I will never figure out like who’s the biggest dog
or doggette in the room that I’m gonna get to and
like I’m gonna get mine so what I really do is I come in and I go really very open, and
create a scenario where, Jason, don’t worry,
you can walk, let’s go, yeah, don’t worry. Say hi to the VaynerNation. – Is there no cutting? You said there was no cutting anymore. – There’s not cutting. – No editing. – This is real. – I know, it’s going
live right now, right? – Yeah, just tell ’em. – I don’t like to be in– – But look, look, I know
you don’t like that, but say hello. Be a nice guy. – Hi, how you doin’? – Okay, awesome. Best accent at VaynerMedia, half Boston, half New York. Very conflicted. And so in places where I’m not known, I’m really looking to just
let serendipity take over. I think networking can get very skeezy very quickly, right, you have
such a hardcore objective. To me, I let it come to me. That is my overall plan. I, by nature am a counter-puncher, from all my aggression and bravado, and what I project on
stage, because that’s a different environment, in real life I’m very much
let things come to me, and I like to react. It’s a little more chess. it’s kind of like, I wish I
knew more about martial arts because I feel like sometimes people leave comments on Facebook and YouTube and I feel like it’s like martial arts, I let the other person’s thing give me the leverage to do my thing. – [Voiceover] Rocky asks,
“What’s your opinion

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“on your goals, and separate yourself from “the demands of the external world?” – Andrzej, I’ll take this one first. You know, I don’t know what to tell you other than it’s unbelievable for me how much the external world has not factored into my decision making, I’ve talked about, if you’ve been watching this […]

“on your goals, and separate yourself from “the demands of the external world?” – Andrzej, I’ll take this one first. You know, I don’t know what to tell you other than it’s unbelievable for me how much the external
world has not factored into my decision making,
I’ve talked about, if you’ve been watching
this show long enough that first F on a test in fourth grade and literally making that transition to I’m gonna fight the market, and I’ve been fighting
the market my whole life. I think for me, it was
the level of self esteem that my mom instilled
in me, plus some level of my own DNA, I think
that’s the friction at hand. Heck, a lot of the themes of
our last question were on this, right, like what does the
market want you to do, whether that’s your parents or society, versus what you want to do. For me, it has a lot to do
with intestinal fortitude. A Gorilla Monsoon WWF reference. You know, I think it’s
surrounding yourself with people that give you permission
to take that risk. That to me is the most practical version of what I’m giving you, other than you’ve got to be born with it. It’s finding those like minded people who are taking those similar risks, and give you, through their own actions, a little more umph, or
if you’re amazingly lucky to have that parental, or
mentor infrastructure above you that created that context. Case. – I think focus is everything. I think that you can do 10 things poorly, or one thing well, and saying, “No,” is something that I only
learned late in my career. – I still suck at it. I still suck at it right now. – Saying, “No,” is so
hard, but the truth is like we’re surrounded by leeches, blood suckers, and vampires,
and those are people that want to take, take, take,
and they don’t give back, and learning to say,
“No,” to those people, learning to say, “No,”
to all those distractions is the only way to get anywhere. Cause time is finite, life is short. Quickly you find things in life
that are really incredible, like family, things that you love, things that you’re passionate about that might distract you in a positive way from your career focus. So, you have to learn
to shed everything else. – I’m gonna throw a little
bit of a curve ball. I get so much happiness out
of doing things for people who would be, you know, categorized as the way you just broke it down because I have a weird gear inside of me that has zero expectation for the return on someone’s selfishness. I know that’s a little bit of a mouthful, but it’s just, it’s probably why I’m so ridiculously happy. I have such little
expectation for the return, it makes me happy to do the give, I sit in front of you
knowing I will accomplish less in my career, and amass less wealth, and a lot of other things,
less time with my family, which is my number one because
I get so much happiness out of some of those actions. So, I would tell you if you’re
in a rare group like myself, make sure you recognize,
in a world where people will tell you that you’re
a sucker for doing it, or things of that nature, you still got to make yourself happy,
but I will tell you, I’m way happier than I was five years ago because I have grown in
my no meter moving a ton. It hasn’t gone to zero,
and I think a lot of people close themselves out of serendipity by saying no too much, right,
and I think we’ve probably both benefited through
our years of the yes when it didn’t make sense on paper. But I’m with you man,
I mean I made a video a long time ago that, The Yes Virus. It’s like the sickness of just
saying, “Yes,” all the time, and it’s a tough one. – Yeah, I mean, I’ve made movies, I made a movie that’s Just Say Yes, like I believe in saying, “Yes,” I believe in embracing
risk, and embracing chance, and all the things that… – Do you think you need to say, “No,” more as you get older? – I just think it’s a learning curve, a very steep learning curve to understand when no is appropriate and
when yes is appropriate, and until you learn
that, you default to yes. – It’s a really, really, or no, my dad defaults to no. I think you and I, like
we have some similarities that makes, like I think
there’s a lot of people there that default to no, I think there’s a lot of people that default. My dad’s opening words are, “Hey dad.” “No.” Like I can’t, “I was gonna
say how was your day?” You know, like no is not a proper. Like, I know a lot of
people that default into no. I think we happen to be surrounded by a lot of people that default into yes. – Yeah, lucky us. – But I think, you know
it’ll be interesting, you know what actually, quick little side question of the day, give me are you a
default yes or no person? I’m just curious for my
own kind of like polling. India, move it along. – [Voiceover] CJ asks,
“How has having a family

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